Whats your Advice?

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I am 23 years old and I am at a point in my life where I feel very discouraged and so alone. I live in a very hot, small, isolated community where I have never felt at home. I have never had any real friendships growing up here, and my father and an uncle were murdered in this city which brings me bad memories and deep sadness. I have left this town several times trying to make a life for myself but for one reason or another I always end up back at home. I've been back at home for 3 months now and I was experiencing anxiety attacks along with severe depression which caused me to be fixated on suicidal ideation. I feel like I am getting better emotionally now but I just don't know what to do at this point in my life and don't have the guidance to guide me through. I need relationships with people and I don't have that which brings me down, and makes me feel that much more isolated. I know I have to trust in the Lord but whats your advice?

Answers:
It is because you havent totally forgotten the past or havent really moved on. You have to face it and go on with your life. This had became a hindrance in your destiny. You have to focus your attention to other productive things. If you cannot really leave home, try refurbishing and repairing your house or give it a new look to welcome good vibes back in. Be active in the community or in the church. When you are busy, you forget bad memories. In doing so, a girl out there may take notice of you and finds ineterest in you. Get out of your shell and embrace the sunshine. Let the rays of hope fill your mind and your heart so that you can start a new life towards happiness and success. good luck!:-D

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TRY CHANGING YOUR HOBBIES, YOUR PRE-OCCUPATIONS, & U WILL STOP BEING LONELY.

It sounds like you haven't been to college, that may be our best ticket out. It can literally get you out of the country, or any state in the us, student loans, grants will support you financially and put you in a better position near people your age in a better lifestyle. The education you gain may be just a bonus.

Remove yours;f from the hopelessness you feel, a new location in a new environment with a diffferent focus can change your deposition.

Find support groups or groups with similar interest you have or had before your depression.. You can check online 'meetup.com' is a good place to get started if you don't feel like driving around to find one. I'd get involved in activities as that will help prevent you from having too much time to think about suicide or death. If this nega tive feeling persisits for over a week, I'd seek medical help to assist you in your transitions in life. Take things slowly so you don't feel overwhelmed and stressed. Make sure you have a good diet and plenty of rest - not too much sleep. And get yourself into a new environment which is more alive and acitve (in the positive direction)

try getting some online friends. force urself into ur community. keep urself active play some sport, exercise, get a girlfriend. Burn ur past and get a new future.

please seek counseling. It really will help you to deal with all the pain you are feeling. Believe me, I've been there, too.

Also, ask your doctor about anti-anxiety and anti-depression pills. For me, the medicine was a lifesaver.

God Bless You.

I do not know where you live exactly but ideally I think that to
live by the water is a much more relaxing lifestyle.
You should move on as you are constantly reminded of your
past where you are (you can always visit if you feel the need)
Get busy with a new job, join a club don't stay home and dwell
on the past. Immerse yourself into your new life don't give
yourself too much thinking time.
You are still so young, the world is your oyster.
Do you take medication for depression? You may need some
for a short while as you develop new habits in your life.
Time is the biggest healer.

that's good to read that your getting better emotionally. Try to re-evaluate your life. I don't know exactly how you feel, but you have to try to dig yourself out of that hole of depression. You're young, find something possitive that makes you happy and live for the moment one day at a time and one step at a time.

What is drawing you back "home" ? If I were you I would not want to be in a place that reminded me of the murders of my Father and Uncle.
You are too young to be bogged down with all of this depressing stuff. Why do you not have any friends? Get out there and do the things that someone your age does and start meeting people .
Put some fun into your life or before you know it you will be older and have wasted it on all this negativity.
It is possible to start over in a new place. I have done it myself and have no regrets whatsoever.
Take care.

Find a league or something to play in, whether it be pool, baseball, or anything else that interests you and that brings you around people on a regular basis.

The next thing is this, depression is a disease of self; find a way to give to others. The simplist and easiest way to start is to pray for others, not yourself. You need to get out of self. When you start the pity party, start thinking nice things about the people in your life, or even people you barely know, or people you have known.

Everynight before you go to bed, write down (important to actually write it down) 10 things you are grateful for, even if you don't feel particularly grateful.

Remember, the only way to counter the negative repeating thoughts in your head is to start by repeatedly putting positive ones in. If you are a Christian person, remember the negative thoughts are lies, think positive things which are Godly; when you have doubts, say an affirmation about yourself or God; even if you don't believe it. What will happen if you do a few simple things on a daily basis is that the positive thoughts through prayer for others, your gratitude list, replacing a negative thoughts with a positive affirmations will eventually snowball in exactly the opposite way your negative thoughts have snowballed to bring you down; the positive will snowball to bring you to a wonderful place with God.

God loves you, allow yourself to feel his love by loving yourself enough to pray for others, help where you can, force yourself to think good things, do your gratitude list everyday, and say no to the lies.

Good luck and God Bless.

Dear Larry,
After reading your question as a Homeopathic Physician I have come to the conclusion that your conditions can be remedied by AURUM MET 30C its a side effects free Homeopathic Remedy and it is specifically used for deep depression and suicidal thoughts with the feeling of utter hopelessness and dejection. Please take it thrice a day half hour before or after meals and report back with your progress after taking it for three days. It will take your mind of the depressing thoughts and will make you feel happy and positive towards life. The effects are almost instant but the cure will take a bit of time.
Please keep me posted about your conditions and progress.Please feel free to email me if you have any questions or want to discuss your conditions.
You can find Homeopathic Remedies in Most Herbal Shops and Stores and if you have any difficulty in obtaining them please write to me where do you live and I will try to help you out !
Take Care and God Bless you.

Im just like you,the different about me is that my dad passed away and i have friends but they just left me alone and sadness while they leading their own life.In addition to that, i am a shy person.What i will do is, i keep on telling myself to be strong each day. As i know that one day there will be someone out there will be my friend someday.It is hard to keep that kind of midset but you have to put an effort.If you need a friend to talk to, you can email me at hijah18@yahoo.com.sg
Pray and be strong.May god bless you

If you live in US, try this site:
http://www.troubledwith.com/
it's a christian website, and you can contact their counsellor,

God bless you.
Pray to him more, build an relationship with him. Learn to build relationship with other base on the guidance of the bible. Walk your life base on how bible teach you.

u r a brave n strong person..u r optimist n optimist ppl always win. God is with those who have no one and ofcourse u know God is the supreme of All so don't worry God Almighty is with u. Get ur self busy in positive things like going out and makin good friends..observe the beauty of nature.make ur home look comfortable :)

All the best today n always :)

We love u !

u could try to volunteer in an organization that wants to help others, for instance a food panty, or some kind of humanity volunteer work. Most people are genuine and fun to be around because they are doing what they enjoy. So these would be positive people for you to tag along with.

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