marriage can be great!?

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I have been married for 32 years and happily married. I just don't understand why sooooo many marriages go to divorce court--I am born of the 50's not a generation where i feel i must stay in a marriage just because I must--I am not old fashion,as you would typically imagine--but when I look at my husband and my children and grand children I can't concieve why anyone would consider breaking up a marriage or family-- Are people so mindless when they get married? Am i so critical? if i imagine being with out my husband,children and grand children / it causes me pain just to imagine it. Anyhow--isn't keeping a marriage together / and sacrad the way GOD wants it? In for love and out without love

Answers:
Congratulations on being married for 32 years, your far from critical. Your just as confused as I am, as to why people marry and then give up on the marriage, when things get a bit tough.

My hubby and I have been married for 22 years, and apparently even that is a record, or so we have been told. We are proud of the fact we have been married for so long. We believe marriage is sacred too.

I do believe that most problems comes back to communication and honesty between each other, about happening with in the relationship.

Sure every marriage has it problems, such as financial problems, children, illness and much more. We have have had more than our share of problems.

We have friends who have divorced or in the process of divorcing, and have admitted that they did not communicate enough or honest with each other.

Sadly there is some marriages that will never work, despite the best efforts to keep things together. And I feel so sad for the children, as some time they are used as pawns, between the rivalling parents. I also feel for the grandparents and the parent who lose contact with their children/grandchildren because of the family break up.

When we are invited to a wedding and asked to fill in the bridal book, I always put in "Always communicate with each other. Never let the sun set on an argument. Be united as parents when it come to children, (if you must disagree with each other, about discipline, never in front of the children)

Life is never easy, but marriage is harder and we have to work at it, to keep the flame going.

No you are not critical and I am very happy for you hon. In fact it is good marriages and good relationships like yours that gives hope to us all. Good for you! You should see me, reading your question just put the biggest smile on my face...thanks for sharing!

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