I had sex with a married co-worker, now I don't know what to do. He acts like it never happened?
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Christ, what do you expect? First off, he's MARRIED! Did you expect him to start dating you? You're just another conquest for him. Take some accountability for YOUR actions and learn from it. If this wasn't something you had considered a possibility, you would NEVER had him come to your home to "fix" your computer
Oh, and ask him for the money back or his wife may find out about his "friendships"...Funny, that all of a sudden, NOW you're aware of his other "friends" at the office.
I see all the apologists posting for the poor little used woman...ah, the victim mentality runs deep...I guess it's OK that you KNEW he was married....
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ignore him. you have heard of karma......right
He made a sucker of you
knowing that he was married and having sex with him anyway, i'm sorry but i think you got what you deserved. forget the money, move on and learn from your mistake.
This is good and, you also act and forget about it and think it never happened.
You were used and deep down you know it. Go to counseling and talk to someone who is trained to know how to help you put this aside. A lot of people in your situation feel as though sex is the only thing people want from them and become promiscuous. Deal with this now and you will be better off. Good luck to you.
remember women are benethe men....you paid for the service you really wanted work on....do not lie to urself....he got what he wanted, and the fairy tale is over....another notch in the belt if you will....dont worry i am sure he will come back when he needs you..other than that just wait
Of course you feel used. You WERE used. It meant absolutely nothing to him, except the fact that it felt good and he enjoyed himself. Promise yourself you won't do it again, and let it go. If you have too difficult a time with it at work, you might want to look for a new job, but don't expect anything from him. You won't get it. Unless, of course, he comes around for more action.
Don't let him get away with that, You tell him how you feel, if you let him do what he is doing he will feel he has the power over you. show him otherwisecreeps like that make me so mad!
your typical jerk. I would tell his wife so she can divorce that scumbag unless she is also cheating...
Answer this question: why did I have sex with a married man? You're both in the wrong - so, suck it up!
Sounds like he is a jerk and you trusted him. i say let him go and be an ***. you can move on from here and know more about next time. Don't let this guy control you.
I'm sorry to say but it sounds like he set you up. He is a worthless excuse for a man. I would stay clear of him and advise others to do the same. However I would confront him about the money for the computer. You sound like a great person who doesn't have to pay for their needs and I would clearly express that to him.
unfortunately, you may have to consider that money as lost.
I personally would ignore him and act like he doesn't exist. But, I'm the type that would also find a way to make his taking my money public knowledge, just so as to embarras the crap out of him and let others know that he's less than honest.
Like write up a note to the effect that "Need computer repair, Don't ask this person, he's a thief. He'll promise to fix it, take your money and act like he never knew you." and then I would leave a copy of that note on everyone's desk; publish it in the classified section of the local paper; stuff like that.
that's what I would do, anyway.
He just used you, unfortunately. Rest assured though, there's a special place in hell for people like that.
I'm no expert on relationship advice, however, you said that he basically ignores you in a "nice" manner. Well first things first you must act as if it was just a thing to, because it fact thats exactly what it was. You can blame yourself for doing such a thing, but point is your human. So motivate yourself, ( no one else will).!! Take yourself out, get your hair done, have a glass of wine while you listen to something soothing. Let this go, in time it will pass. You made a mistake, that you had better not happen again:(. But smile ::), ur a woman- your beautiful!
Don't beat yourself up, just quietly move on (out of his physical proximity) and don't talk to him again. Find another guy you can be happy with and use this incident as a lesson. Don't mention your experience to anyone else.
Well, that's just sad. I guess he's attitude to you is a turnoff and I suggest you to move on. A friend of you to the least will not make you feel bad but look at what he did to you. Was it fair? Are you feeling happier now? Or be4 you'd encountered with him?
Well, yourself and your feelings are the most important. Wait for the right chance. it'll come sooner or later!
you should ignore that jerk!! and ask for your money back...why the heck did he keep your money when he didnt even fix your computer...
he is obviously a cheater and an inconsiderate jerk.
hi i am a guy and he is doing that to show he wants sex with no strings attached .........he has his cake at home "wife"...but like his stringless pie..."you" when away from home.....sorry truth hurts but thats what it is the .......BUT the best way to keep an relationship with this person .....for whatever reason why you would want to ......is to show that you want a stringless relationship also and that will gain his trust that your not a "CLINGY" person that will contact his wife and make it difficult for him at home.
ok you know he was married but you slept with him anyways that is wrong on your part if he is acting like nothing happened just go along with it he will get what is coming to him sooner or later
I am sorry about your experience with your co-worker. First, he must have misunderstood your calling for computer services just a front for having him at home and your advance payment is for the sex services. By not touchng your computer yet accepting your money shows he has been doing what you have have done with him for a fee. You have solicited the services of a call boy.
I think you have to go on with your life. I will not say forget what happened because you will not, specially if you enjoyed that little moment. Just watch out for the words spreading around the office or any negative steps he might do. At least you have to be thankful he is not a criminal. You are not worthless and for ten years without sex, think of it as you have to have it for your health of mind's sake.
You allowed yourself to be used, but you don't have to continue letting him use you.
I would go to him and put it in his face. I would say, "obviously you misunderstood me. You thought I was paying you for a sex act, but I was paying you to fix my computer." Hold your hand out and say, "I want my money back or I am going to your wife!" And then I would do it if he didn't refund the money.
After that, chalk it up to a learning experience, and hope and pray you didn't contract HIV!
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