How can I overcome my fear when my bf is driving and I am his passenger?

Question:

I had a car accident in February and now that I know how much it hurts to have a collision at low speed (50kmph) I am terrified of a collision on the highway. My significant other gets mad when I tell him to slow down or point out that the road has a sharp curve coming up. I sit there with my seatbelt on, my left hand gripping the seat and my right hand gripping the door handle. Sometimes I get so scared I feel faint. I keep imagining cars hitting us.

Answers:
I was told to use a meditation technique. Imagine yourself in a big pink bubble, and breathe deeply (don't hold it, just let it out). In other words, make yourself relax.

You have a very real fear, and may want to talk to a professional about the best ways to overcome it. But you are doing fine.

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do what I do and close your eyes.
my husband drives like a lunatic, but I just stopped paying attention

It's insensitive for him to get angry with you for have a normal reaction after a trauma. It will take time for your fear to lessen and you need time to deal with it. If he can't understand your anxiety, don't ride in the car with him. Your boyfriend should understand how you feel and should not get mad at you just because you are nervous. He needs to be more patient with you help you to overcome your fear.

He should be more sensitive to your recent accident, and drive as safe as possible to make you more comfortable, as well as using comfort words to you as he is driving. That must be terrible for you to be the passenger in his car.my heart goes out to you.

Have you talked to someone about the psychological trauma from the accident? If not, you might want to consider it. If you have health insurance, see if they cover counseling, or if there are low-cost options in your area. It could be a big help.

If your s/o is not sensitive to you with this, then you need to look at other ways he is treating you. Is he disregarding your feelings in other areas as well? If yes, you need to make the decision if you want to be with someone that does not respect you. Back to your question, do you have these feelings when you are a passenger with anyone else? If not, does your s/o drive recklessly? If you do, you may want to get a little counseling to help you work through this. You went through a VERY traumatic event, and many people go to counseling for much less. Good luck to you!! i have the same fear. i have not been in a really bad accident but i have had a few. that is not why i get scared though. he thinks he is the best driver and he is a speed demon. i always take a couple of sleeping pills on long road trips when we are together. otherwise my anxiety is overbearing.
i prefer valium, but excedrin pm, 1 tablet works find for me.

It is going to take a long time to get over your accident. If you don't feel comfortable in a car with someone no matter who it is, then just don't go. Your boyfriend should understand, if he doesn't get rid of him! good luck to you!

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