how do you build up your self esteem?
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Find more things good about yourself. Promote yourself to yourself. Find ways to succeed. Be happy with who you are. You are special because you are you. Care about others and show this care. They will give you self-esteem.
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degrade others
Get off youqa.com, turn off the computer, and talk to real people. hmm i dont understand what self esteem is.
i just ignore it and spend my time eating my favorite foods
stop caring about what people think of you. go out and enjoy life. dont feel bad about yourself ..life for you could always be worse.you have it way better thab alot of others. I grew up overweight and got made fun of it, so I had extremely low self esteem all through high school, I hated myself and was withdrawn. One day though I woke up and realized my friends and family liked me for me. It didn't matter what other people thought of me and I slowly worked on re-building my self-esteem. I've been graduated for 3 years now and I'm not confidant in myself nor do I have low self esteem. I just understood one day that the only thing that matters in my opnion and no one elses. Good Luck I wish I had a better answer!
You have to realize that how we view ourselves is originally deemed by the people we are around however there comes a time in your life when you need to give up on caring what other people think about you and start believeing in yourself, you came up with 4 things, that is GREAT somedays I can't even come up for 1 thing. You have to pat yourself on your back for at least one thing everyday even if it is as simple as waking up in the morning.
Give yourself credit for all that is accomplished on a daily basis no matter how insignificant it seems.
Don't look to other people for your affirmations or acceptance, life is way too short to get caught up in other peoples bullshit.
Think of it this way, what are you stressing about today? Now think about what you were stressing about this very moment 5, 10 or even 20 years ago. Can't remember can you? Life is too short, carpe diem my friend!
Simple answer is to get your mind on something other than yourself.. Your mind will always trend toward finding the negatives rather than the positives. So, get your mind somewhere where it involves someone other than yourself.. even if you have to revert to your cat. If you have a really good friend, ask them. Usually other people can tell more good qualities about you then you can.
Smile when you are walking on the street, people will smile back and you will feel better very soon.
I try to perform esteemable acts, no matter how small. I think if you DO good things, you'll have something to FEEL good about. And do them without expecting a reward.
Like today for example. I went to a 12-step meeting which I attend regularly. There was an older gentleman there who had relapsed and drank alcohol last weekend. He drank so much that he ended up in the hospital detox unit. He was able to come to the meeting (which is at the hospital) and told everyone what happened.
I decided I would just go say "hi" to him after the meeting. He kind of blew me off. He had had 21 years sober before this incident, so maybe he felt I had nothing useful to share with him, since I've only been alcohol free for 16 days.
But it was a wonderful experience. I didn't feel upset at him at all, because I understand he had a rough time the past week. I hope that he always remembers that there are always people available to talk. Normally, I would have said to myself "O screw YOU, old man." But I am coming to understand that it's not all about me and what people think of me. If I can be helpful or useful to someone, then I will try my best, and not worry about whether I get rewarded or not. If I look like an idiot, so what? I at least did what I thought was right.
PS: Here's a saying I like: "OTHER PEOPLES' OPINIONS OF ME ARE NONE OF MY BUSINESS." Learn a new skill. self esteem and confidence comes from being able to do things. There is other ways but cant remember them right now
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