Im unhappy all the time? I laugh maybe once a week! I cry for hours?


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The world just seems like such a heap of crap, everyone out to make money, and buy electronics. People work watch tv eat and sleep. Ocasionally having kids, so the race doesnt die out.. Why do any of you bother, what keeps you going form day to day. I mean, if your reading this youve got 60 years left to live, and 20 of those you will have dementia, or not be able to walk.. or something of the like. Can anyone give me a non-stupid(including religion) reasson to actually keep living. I dont want kids, i dont want money, i dont want a car or a tv, or alcohol. Why should i bother. Note all you kind people who say things like kill yourself.. I hope you realise yahoo records what you say, and your IP address, so it can be tracked to you, or your family, and that you are part of the reason i find life so meaning less, if people werent mean just cos they could be, or oh how really funny they were, or cos it made their m8 laugh, i might smile for the first time this week.

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I hear ya! whats the point, uh? aint nothing I can say to make you feel any better, just to let ya know your not alone,,aint no words anyone is gonna say tthat will change things,, its got to start with us , SOMEHOW! its just so hard to figure out what that is,,and yes people are mean, always judging or putting others down,, ya know , i asked a question on here the other day about getting my hair to grow,, you know what my first answer was,,,your ugly!! thats what they said,, now tell me how a complete stranger and an idiot, could have made me feel so bad. but yes I think about getting old and I hate it, I THINK about my kids geting old and I HATE IT! yep cryin seems to be a daily event for me also!

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Sounds like depression...see your doctor. You don't need to want the same as everyone else to want to live. Have you considered doing something that could change peoples visions of what they want from life?
Watch more comedy on TV or video etc. When money permits, travel and see new things, experience the world, take lots of cool photos and bring back stuff that you collected on the way.
have u considered counselling or psychotherapy?
Okay, i must say i had a mix of feelings reading this. At times it felt like you were saying that because you find your life meaningless everyone else finds their life meaningless. I am not an expert but it does seem as though you have turned off all emotion. You sound negative. I am not trying to be patronising, because i can feel like that also, but everyday something new happens and you have an opportunity to make the most of it or not. Every time you don't, its a missed chance. You may find your good at something, or someone likes you, or anything. Don't be so hard on yourself and others. Its a small world and we're all in it together.
I think you're going through a hard time and may be quite depressed.
I've been there and l think there are alot of people who feel like you do.
Some people keep it to themselves and others have to let it off their chest.
I hope you can find somewhere to let out your anger, resentment and pain, in a constructive way; and in a safe place with people who will listen to you and support you.
Welcome to the World...Only you can find your own reasons for wanting to carry on being part of it, one of them might be to continue complaining or feeling sorry for yourself, or perhaps you could focus on other people who need help.
Ghandi said something about each man being reponsible for his own destiny in the sense that he is free to choose the way he wishes to use his freedom.
you sound like you have a problem in feeling you have no purpose in life. This may sound like a religious answer but it has to be said. God created you to have fellowship with him. If you or anyone trys to find fufillment else where or without him you arrive at exactly where you find yourself. Call on the name of the Lord not only to be saved but to be given your purpose. Here's praying for your happiness and peace Grab a bible and read through the psalms see what happens.
i guess you have to look into yourself to find inner peace and happiness. you are a lonely person and needs to be comforted. you need to console your spirit through opening your soul and know yourself. also, accept things as they are. at times we seek answers yet we cant find any. learn to have faith and be in touch with your spirituality, the end of it you'll realize that what you seek is just merely within you.
Dear yeah well,

I feel you are quite sad indeed! Be happy then! you are not living to be sad but to be happy. I am not speaking of being stupid always smiling but being able to see that even if you are in troubles in your daylife, life is good and beautiful.

Why? anyone has his own reasons. I like life even if tremendously difficult since I have experience of what is good and bad, so that I can offer this experience to all who have troubles and make them be better possibly.

A suggestion for you? be searching your own hearth what you do really think you are and what you feel about life and what is your perspective in life. Try and meet other people who can show you how life is beautiful every day, every minute. Have you ever been in a hospital? go there and your attitude will change. God gaves you life and want you to change your heart now. Love yourself, do not hate yourself and the world. Be honoured to be living. It is a special gift that lots of people cannot have anymore... God bless you in your everyday life.
It sounds like you're having a really hard time at the moment.
Depression is a rotten thing, it leaches the joy out of life, doesn't it?
It's probably worth going to your GP and discovering whether there's anything they can do for you. Sometimes it just helps to have someone who will listen to you.

Also, you might want to try a workshop of some kind, perhaps one which helps you to rediscover the fun and laughter in life.

You don't say what your situation is, or how old you are but in my experience, unless you are clinically depressed, life is a series of phases, none of them lasting forever. Sometimes you just have to keep going until you get to the next one.

It will get better, you will smile again.

If you need someone to talk to, you're welcome to email me.

In the meantime, try reading something uplifting, it always helps me.
thats the way i also feel. im not having a good day today and even tho this isnt wat most people would say is the right answer but i think its true.
It sounds like you have depression, and its really common, the fact that its so common should bother us all because it shows that we are building a society that is unfit for people to live in.
I agree with what you say. So what do you do now? My reasons for being alive may not make any sense to you, they'll mean little to you because this is my life not yours!
Please, go and get help with the depression. Go see your g.p. and if they are unsympathetic then change your g.p. Also see if there are any support services near you. And phone the Samaritans.
Get a routine going every day and ditch everything that is meaningless in your life. Find something that is meaningful to you and focus on that. There is more to life than big brother, t.v., consumerism and all that crud; start searching on the net if you don't have the energy for anything else.

Here are some neat sites to get you started. Find something inspiring to look at.
You know, there are a lot of people who have had a lot of bad, tramatic events happen to them and they keep on going. A lot of times, people are not appreciated as the wonderful person that they are.
Sometimes, a good idea is to kind of put the sad you in front of you and analyze- what makes you feel this way? What other problems are in this world? How are other people suffering? And then think what can I do to make things better? There is too much suffering in the world-the local and international news tells you that on a daily basis. However, you can make things better. Sometimes going for a walk- or doing any kind of excercize would be a start in the right direction- it's a bit vitalizing and you can clear your thoughts. Volunteer your time and make a difference in someone elses life- be it animal shelters or local hospitals. Or think globally. How nice would it be if everyone had an adequate water or food supply? Where can you research that? I'm sure you can google pretty much anything.
Sometimes getting lost in a good book is a way to forget your sadness and also writing things down. Keep a memoir, set goals and stick to them. Doesn't matter how big or small they are. At any rate, I hope that you get out of your blue funk. People do say that therapy helps, too. Good luck!
You're manic depressive and obviously low in self esteem, you have no drive or worth. You either need some professional help and medication, or a good slap to wake you up and make you realise there are people who would be devastated to lose you, BECAUSE THEY LOVE AND NEED YOU.

Don't be so selfish to feel suicidal. Help others and they will help you. Reach out if you need them.

I lost my mother and felt suicidal with grief. But the day I nearly lost my daughter made me realise what was really important, reaffirmed my responsibility to her, and made me see how much I love her and how precious she is.

Don't chuck it all in you idiot. What you've written in your question is alot of depressed drivvel. You can change your whole facking life around, if only you TRY. And I tell you what, set yourself a goal, attain to things, because ambition and drive gives you a burning desire to live; only because you want to be a success. Discover love and friendship.

YOU'RE NOT DEAD YET, SO DON'T WORRY ABOUT GETTING OLD. LIVE YOUR LIFE NOW AND DO SOMETHING WITH YOURSELF BEFORE ITS TOO LATE AND YOU LET IT PASS YOU BY.
Well,
Just put it like this, we cant change the world , we cant change ppl, and we sure cant stop the terrible things that are goin on.
But that my friend should not be a reason to stop smiling. Look, the selfish world don't care about u, so why care what they do. Just don't follow, cuz deep down they're the ones that are unhappy. Or what u also can do is surround urself with positive thinkin ppl. Pretty sure there got to be like few of them out there!!
Just do what I do, put a smile on ur face even when ur down and the sky is gray. It works!!

p.s never let anyone kno how ur really feeling, they can use it against u :)
You simply see the world the way it is. To be happy, one must have a particular perspective, which is probablly blinkered. Ultimately, everything is futile, but you still have your life. Take an interest in something - anything. It saves you. Ever tried joining a club? Sounds obvious, but we all need people, and many join some social thing or other just to meet people, so perhaps you will get on with them?

There's also your GP. They can try anti-depressants and counselling. Maybe that approach could help to lift your mood?

Don't just dwell in misery! Try to be positive! Do something!

Good luck, whatever that is. x

Alan
I don`t want to preach, but the moment you wrote this, you already asked for help. Its either you need some therepy (nothing scary, I`ve been going for a while), or you are a teanager. If you are young, it is understandable. I used to be just like you. Playing dead, when I was alive..My sister killed herself 6 months ago, so now I see how happy I am just still being alive. I moarn every single day, I cry, but everything around you and me is still alive and moving. There is only one life given to us by someone or something. We should use it to make others and you HAPPY! Make something nice for the humanity, study, read books, talk, watch Friends on TV, walk your dog.
But, go and see a therapist. It will put some new things in perspective.
I think, I know how you feel, but you are the answer to all your questions. I must say, I believe you know how life can be good again.:)
No one likes a whinger.
You sound very depressed. Maybe you should seek help. With proper medication, you can come out of that.
Happiness is the absence of frustration. Contentment is being ok with the level of frustration you have. For some, the pursuit of that absence of frustration is enough. It must be so with me.

It could be that your crying jags have their roots in an undetected low blood sugar condition. Low blood sugar is something that happens to everybody every day, but for some it can hang around. For basic information on hypoglycemia, check out www.hufa.org. For information on its precursor condition – hyperinsulinemia – check out www.mayoclinic.com then search for hyperinsulinemia.
listen mr self pity the thing about life is that it IS crap. All any living thing does is eat, sleep and crap. And if its lucky get laid. Everything else from houses to plumbing to roads to schools has been instigated by people who wanted more than sitting about the mudhut waiting for an antelope/deer/rabbit to pass by. Get a grip. If you want to sit there feeling all sorry for yourself then go ahead cos no-ones going to stop you. You are alive, so you can eat, sleep, crap and maybe get laid. That is all there is to life and existing. If you want more then you need to get off your fat lazy self pitying backside and go and get it. No-ones going to come to your door with lifes luxuries on a silver platter. If you dont like materialism go and live in a tent. Dont buy into it. Dont moan at me. Get a grip.
think of your family, your friends, your neighbors, your pets... how will they feel if you kill yourself...

REMEBER: suicide is a permenent soulution for a temporary problem
I often think why,why bother with life and you know i haven't came up with one good reason thenagain i'm a total depress head and feel like its all going to end everyday
Ah dude you have the worst kind of mental disorder - THINKING. It affects few, but badly I am afraid. I often find that the world gets pretty ugly when you start to look at it too closely. It's true, a lot of people are pretty sh*t much of the time. We live in a world of materialism, get-rich quick, and craving for celebrity for doing nothing. Why else would reality Television have taken off in such a big way?

Someone once told me that I get miserable a lot because I'm too clever, which I thought was a load of crap to be honest, but i see what they're getting at now. It's because I'm too much of a thinker. It appears you suffer with the same affliction.

Okay, so you don't want kids. Make your own reasons to live. Forget the whole Darwinian survival of your genetics schema, forget religious mumbo jumbo, just accept that you got given life for some reason beyond our current comprehension, and so you might as well use it wisely.

Use these fabulous powers pf observation you have for something other than finding the flaws of humanity, because believe me, they're all too obvious.

Look for something new. Look for the good in humanity. That's more of challenge, but it's somehow rewarding when you find good deeds. Find beauty in nature, be it the power and chaos of the sea, or the way a really leafy tree looks when you lie beneath it in the park, or your wife's smile, or a water fountain. Travel if you like. Find things that really evoke a response in you. Maybe the theatre - the atmosphere really gets me, or powerful music that makes you feel alive.

Write, draw, paint, experience everything. Find things you like doing and do them until you don't want to any more. Create things that mean something to you, so that you have something with real meaning that you can understand, unlike life. Try bungee jumping or canoeing, or rapid rafting for a buzz that makes you really feel life. Join courses on astronomy, or learn another language so you can talk to other people who may not be as stupid as those in your immediate surroundings.

Make your own happiness and meaning by doing something that makes you feel impassioned.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, create your own reasons to live. Life is the board game without the instructions. You choose how you wants to play, the way that pleases you most. That's what I'm doing now.

I hope you find the way to make this the ultimate game xXx


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