Of course its depression! Most of your answers are so samey, try harder, stop saying see a doctor?
Question:
It is depression.
Im 28
I might be getting divorced soon
Im facing a jail sentence
I might become homeless
Im not eating i feel so worthless
Ive phoned the samaritans, they just listen
Ive tried mind, they just listen
I do read, im only less pi**ed off for that small time
I have no job, i am trying to find one.
I have no family.
I have few friends
The police are allways on my back
I fear people, they have been randomly and personally attacked me b4.
I live in fear, and i have numerous good reasons to live in fear.
My home has been set on fire, my car vandalised.
My parents left me
My mther mentally abusive
I HATE LIFE
so stop saying doctors and medication and it could be worse(of course it could) now is quite bad enough thank you
how do i live from day to day
when absolutely nothing is certain
in a week i might be divorced, in prison, homeless, dead
Wont someone, anyone say something they didnt hear on sally jessie, or dr phill?
Answers:
Some ideas and opinions based on my own experiences, advice I was given, and facts I read in various books e.g. nutrition books.
1) The Samaritans can still be useful.I was a volunteer for a while. Someone I know benefited from their help.
2) Communicating with a range of people on a range of subjects is very important for all of us to help normalise us. I was told that by medical people trying to help me. I did it. You are doing it using a keyboard like me. Friends have to be tended to like plants. Some die, or lose interest or become fanatical about something that I feel is weird.
I try to be ready to make new friends, because of "natural wastage".
3) Eating good food instead of junk food gives energy needed to tackle living. Coax yourself to eat. For me, certain foods are both healthy and tempting if I really have lost my appetite e.g. tinned salmon, yoghurt, orange juice. Only your own list would be of any use, though. I use vitamin B complex and C to tackle activities demanding a lot of mental concentration or stress.
Fibre helps to keep blood sugar level normal. Blood pressure and blood sugar seem to strongly affect energy levels.
4) For some people, listening to music and watching films occasionally is good.
5) Exercise is very useful to enable anyone to sleep. Sleep seems to heal. On one of the occasions when I was depressed, I walked until my feet were sore. Miles. Then my body was tired enough to allow my mind to rest, a bit.
6) For some people (me for example) books have been a help e.g. ones by Anthony Robbins. I judge from some of his writing that he is not just some klutz.
7) Doing normal things like washing, shaving etc. are essential in the search for interesting work.
8) I have a specialized hobby - Maths. I also give private tuition in Maths. I now have 25,000 pages of notes. In years past I found that it helped my depression lift.
9) Almost never use sleeping pills. 99.99% of the time, there must be a better way to tackle need to sleep. Many people probably worry much too much about insomnia.
10) If you are religious, prayer may help. If not, dont.
Other Answers:
Call Dr Kevorkian
Than stop complaining just do the best you can do.
when i felt as you do now, the ONLY thing that helped me was walking round a graveyard..its quiet, and no one bugs you, also, although its crap, sit on a bench in a VERY public place...like in Town..
i cant offer anything substantial, when your're as low as you feel right now, coupled with the anger at it all...nothing anyone can say, is going to help you.
all i can say, is
i know where you're coming from and i feel for you
Well, hon the best thing I can tell you is that tomorrow is another day. Things can start changing for the better tomorrow. Stay brave and don't give up.
ok mr angry you just live - minute to minute hour to hour day to day. You go to the shop and buy some food. You eat. you sleep. you go to the toilet. thats life thats all there is to it. anything else has to come because you want to have something different and you go out and get it. I f you dont want anything more you wont get anything more. Its up to you. If you want to get drunk then go out and get drunk. if you want to learn go and find a college. if you want to get laid find a sl ut. if you want a job just keep looking. if you want nothing then youve got it.
Life is just eating, sleeping, shitting and then dying. Nothing more. If you want stimulation then go and get some.
I don't get what you want anyone to say, nothing that anyone says is going to make your problems go away and most likely will not make you feel any better. I figure your best bet would be to go to some kind of support group for people with depression or for divorced people, in that setting you'll be around people who have gone through what your going through and they'll be able to give you good advice.
Ok, now that you have listed everything is not happening good at the moment in your life, Just think about all the good points of your life, and dont go saying there isnt any,
Also , think , that those issues that are facing you at the moment, See how you can , reverse them , so they do not happen,
INstead of trying to change your life fully around at once, try it in little bits, pick a part , that is going wrong, and make it happen good
Well I know u dont want ne one to say see a doctor or take medication. But its the only way to go unless u learn how to control ur depression and become more sane.
its totally up to u to get ur life sorted, u sound like u live in a **** neighbourhood! get the fuk out if u can, u need to find sum1 who will take care of u and support u, dunno y ya gettin divorced so cant really help there, fuk ur family, ur friends need to help u if they can,im talkin real friends now.
im sorry to say this but ur on ur own! if ur strong enough u can make it work! i hope ya do.
good luck darlin!!
Sorry to hear about all that. Of course, those are going to be your standard answers from people. Try to find one shoulder to lean on that you can trust. Sometimes it helps just to have somebody LISTEN without passing judgement, advice, or criticism. Have faith in something, too. It doesn't matter what. If you have a religion keep your faith in that. If you have kids, go on for them. If you can't think of something, then find faith in a piece of cheese-toast. Whatever you choose...let that be what you look to when you are feeling the pressure.
Good luck to you and I hope everything works out.
Well if you die, that will be the end of your problems.
What you need darling, is some tough love. Yes life is sh*t. Whose isn't? Now instead of sitting on here bit*hing about your problems, do something about them.
We can't give the answers, but hey some people may think they can. Only you can. Now go off into the world, and take your head out of the sand.
Um, you have a lot of issues. With your history I would be in the same shape. I don't have anything insightful to say but I wanted to say something if anything to offer hope. Best of luck to you.
Move.
Flee the jurisdiction, flee your worthless spouse. You've basically said you don't have anything tying you down. Begin again, move to Canada and start over. You're still young enough to do something like that.
Why are people burning your house and beating you? I can only think that maybe you like kids in the biblical way. Is that accurate? Or were you framed?
If you're not going to move just do your sentence and then just go somewhere. Take all your money and buy a bus ticket to anywhere.
You know what?
YOU ARE A GREAT COMPOSER.
You aren't sick...that's just normal in every ARTIST to be so sensitve... where are you? what's your email?
..can I mail you? well, I'm asking coz i do wanna spoil your day...
Good luck!
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We must be thankful that we are still here.. still live and kickin'
--and still around. Unlike the those people in the battlefield... you may live,, you may not....
when last did you go out with your friends?
when last did you have a holiday of some sort?
have you ever tried volunteer work for people with depression?
have you spoken to your freinds?
if they are true freinds they will listen and help you through this dark and gloomy episode of your life.
good luck
Yeah, life sucks.. but you got to get through it. move to somewhere new, it looks like there's nothing keeping you where you are. Take control of your life and live it to the full.
Get a life and quit whining. We all have problems, quit burdening everyone else with yours. So call Dr. Phil tell him how selfish and childish you are being and get on his show. Then you can start all your sentences with "poor me".
You need to stop trying to get attention. You do need to see a doctor. This is nothing more than a forum of random, bored people reading, answering, and asking questions. Why don't you try to seek the help of a professional and if you actually are, as you say you are, already seeing one, get a different one.
But, hey think of it this way...if you get put in jail, you definitely won't be homeless and they'll have work for you to do on the inside, so you won't have to worry about that either.
Also, just because you have done stupid things to make all this crap build up on you, does not mean you are depressed. You are probably going through a bout of depressive symptoms, but depression itself is long term and does not just happen because your life is "going wrong" at some point. I would also say that you are a sociopath rather than depressed, in which case you belong in jail. (I have been a student of psychology for quite some time and am working in a professional setting in the field now is where my information comes from).
Here and now.
I'm so sorry about all of that, you sound like your in the same situation my father was in a few years back.
First is first, getting a job is important. Keep looking, and I'm sure that you'll find something. Even if it is in fast food, just try to get all of the money that you can. Save every bit of it! For food, you need to eat, hun. If you don't, you'll feel more depressed (that's a fact). Buy the cheapest stuff you can get at a discount store (we have a store called Aldi around my house that almost everyone goes to because you save so much freaking money there).
If you have an impending prison sentance, try to start cleaning up your act. I don't know what you did, but I'm sure that you can start cleaning up whatever you DID do. If cops are on your back, they might see that you are trying to clean up things and be a better person. It'll help.
Next off, the whole divorced thing. If you and your spouse are getting a divorce, it's pretty much too late to do anything about it. Accept it for now, and mourn once you have time and the money to. Keep on working, it'll keep you from thinking about your home status.
After my parents split six years ago, I was depressed, too. Not as bad as you seem to be, but I was still very upset. I refused medicine, too, because I thought that it was unnecissary. I haven't been depressed since the day I stopped taking meds. In your case, though, I would still take medicine, just to even out your mood and make you think a little more clearly untill your feet are back on the ground.
Hun, everything will be okay. A lot of people go through tough times and pull through, and I'm sure that you will, too. Keep eating, get a job (any job for right now), and pray. I think that you'll be out of the woods fairly soon. Give it a month, you'll be okay. Keep a smile on and keep up!
-Lella^_^
you're beyond help. Dr. Phil says find a bridge over a fast river.
The answer is evidently one only you can find. It's not people's fault their advice isnt helping. I sympathise, I really do, but what is it you want from us? What to do you want for yourself?
I would still imagine your best chance lies with doctors and medication, stick with whatever they are suggesting, it is long term rather than short term solutions they are offering.
You are describing the world we all live in. I could be dead before the end of the day, we all could.
Divorce happens if one person or the other lets it. If it is something you dont want, fight for it (not literally), but if it is a lost cause, cut your losses and move on to find what it is that was missing ehre elsewhere.
People who are abusive are people you dont need. Remove them from your life.
If you are to be put in prison, I can only assume you are guilty. I find it hard ot be sympathetic as almost all crime leaves a victim in some way. On the plus side, you might get the help you need in prison, it may give you working and acoomodation oppurtunities you did not have before. It is a way (not a good one, but a way none the less) to the support systems in place that can help.
Good luck, but its your fight - not anyone elses. Fight it hard.
If you go to prison then you won't have to worry about a job/being homeless.
Always look on the bright side of life.
for me at first it was prozac, then i decided to learn to live and cope with it, each person finds some thing that works for them, I have duvet days when it is bad, take the dogs for a walk, try to live each day as it comes along, do some thing nice for my self.. changed my job to somehting I enjoyed rather than just money focused... try some of these links?
all you can do is put your head down and fight through, take the time you have to decide where you want your life to be, what do you want to do with it, and then work out how you are going to make it happen. only you know what makes you happy, maybe moving to a new area to settle would ease a lot of pressure on you and you can lay to rest old memories and start over again. i was in a mess a couple of years ago, my marriage was going down the bog, i lost my job, my confidence and i felt like you do now. i attempted suicide and was fully ready for the escape route it offered, but someone got to me just in time, i was less than a minute from death and lucky that oxygen starvation didnt leave me brain damaged. i was sectioned and the help and reassurance i got was fantastic, it certainly taught me that there is always someone in a worse position and that tomorrow is another day. try writing about the things in your head and also see a psychiatrist so you can ' clean out your closet' . i hope your life turns mate, good luck and chin up.
Honey, your life is horrible and i would not like to be going through what you are going through right now and i am not going to pretend that i can even begin to imagine how you are feeling. There is nothing any of us can say to you that is going to make you feel better or take your problems away. I wish there was. You are angry now and that is OK!! Scream, shout you have every right to!! Listening to your problems is all any of us can do, we cant take them away but sometimes it does help to talk to get some of the frustration out. Who are these people who are putting you in danger. Have you phoned the police? Go to the social work department and tell them all about this and ask them for help to find some safe accommodation. I really wish i could wave a magic wand and make your problems go away honey but there is no magic solution. Your main priority right now is to find some place safe to go. Please, please go and seek help from the social work dept and tell them you fear for your life. Honey i hope ever thing works out for you and feel free to contact me if you need to sound off. Good luck xx
This sounds like you need in-patient therapy. There are several mental health clinics that will help you with these problems. One I remember advertised years ago was called "Charter". It's for people who feel that life's situations have become overwhelming.
Dude!!!! There is one thing that you have not mentioned. Because I am where you are. I have been homeless, but have a place to live now. Its not much, I sleep on a couch but hey its home.
You know this is going to sound like crap, but here it goes. Get a Bible read it accept Jesus as your savior. It doesn't solve everything but it helps. Job went through the same suffering but he made it. I go through this but through the strength of god I get by. it.s hard but you can make it. Jesus is there for you man. If it weren't for him I would be dead a long time ago.
I hate to have to tell you this but I don't watch sally or dr. phil and from experience and I'm 59 years old and going through much of what you are. I even attempted suicide 2 months ago! A therapist and psychiatrist to give you medication is the only answer. Other than that, as horrifying as your life is, and so is mine, please believe that. You have to get through each day one day at a time. It's hard, God it's hard, but do things that will take your mind of all the sh** in your life. Try to be with people who might not know about your life. Do some volunteer work and help people who are, believe it or not worse off than you are, like disabled people. I've been volunteering at a nearby Group Home for the mentally retarded two days a week doing an Arts and Crafts hour and they love it! It takes my mind off the horror of my life. Good Luck to you and I really mean that. God Bless...
You are a mess, yours is a tuff case. No-one can give you a good answer for your issues without knowing the whole story. Life sucks sometimes, you have to look at any good in your life to make you want to be alive. Although you seem to have allot of bad in your life, there must be something in you to want to make your life better. That is a good sign that there is something there, you may need someone to help you to discover what it is and blossom it into a better life for you. A positive attitude from a person and a good listener may be all you need to correct your unhappy life to something you can develop into a happy life for you.
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