I am really worried about the way my life is going right now..?
Question:
I seem to spend a lot of my time feeling sick with nerves and sometimes even struggling for breath.
What can I try to do to make myself feel calmer and more steady?
I build things up a lot to be more important than they maybe are and just cant seem to relax.
My future scares me.
Answers:
1) Millions of people feel and experience the same things so try not to feel as if you are defective and alone. The qualifier is: how much do these situation affect your life, small, medium or huge problem?
2) Your reaching out, that is the best thing to do. However, the net probably is not the best place to do so. (even though you have run into me)
3) Find a professional to talk to. Call a hot-line. Family and friends are OK but many times are more harmful than helpful. It is important to be able to express yourself in a safe environment.
4) Meditation can be extremely effective if practiced enough. Done everyday for a month (5 minutes) and the steps will become automatic. Then when faced with something stressful taking a deep breath will calm you. (it is that simple)
5) You DESERVE to feel better about yourself.
Other Answers:
Watch the movie 'Fight Club'.
-J.
see a professional, it helps to have someone to talk to. There is a prescription med called buspar which is non addictive that treats anxiety.
Exercise will also help relieve your symptoms.
Finally, find a guy that is intelligent and reliable. He will make your life easier.
try to find a way to reduce the stress in your life, first off, look elsewhere for a boyfriend if you know this will never go anywhere.
raise your sights and try to determine what it would take to make you happy tomorrow, next year or 10 years from now. Dreams don't have to stay dreams.
If you know it won't work with this guy.why continue to see him? That will take care of that situation.
As for the job, you can also always find a new job. That's one thing an employee has over an employer at any time. Sure its a pain in the rear, but they make it that way so more people don't leave.
The future shouldn't scare you, it should be an exciting time of "what's going to happen next and how can I make it good"? Have confidence in yourself. Worrying about things doesn't help in any way at all!
The best way to get through life happy is to like yourself. Decide what your values are, why you have chosen them (so you can explain to others why you make the decisions you do), and stick to them!
Don't betray yourself to make others happy or to make others like you. If you don't like yourself and don't believe in yourself, you'll never be happy.
I hope this doesn't sound trite because it really is that simple. Deciding who you want to be and sticking to it is not simple, but once you do, nothing else in life will be able to shake you that hard. You'll still have bad times and unhappy times, but they will be few and they will pass quickly.
First of all, you need to relax. I know you know this and I also know you don't know how to do this on your own. But you can!! Trust me, you really can! If taking a long, hot bath doesn't help or spending some time with your friends then perhaps you may need to talk to your doctor. I personally don't like the idea either but if it is affecting your everyday life, then you really need to do it. He may refer you to someone else and if that's the case, do it. I've been there myself and I'm finally comfortable and able to deal with issues much better! Life is short, you have control of your own life. No one else does, so it's up to you to change it and believe me, YOU can!! Good luck and write if you need to talk! Wow story of my life too gurl. Im a firm believer in "everything happens for a reason". Life my be crap right now but it will pan out. I completly understand your situation. Ive been working dead end jobs, have 2 kids that im raising, Im in love with my boyfriend but know it will never work. I live with my ex inlaws for right now for christ sakes lol. But in the end there will be a reason for it all. Im the most nervous dramatic person on the face of the planet and the best advise i can give you is wake up everyday do what you got to do and then stand back and be patient. Its easier said than done but hey, everything happens for a reason.
Go & see a Dr. maybe you have anxiety problems that
only a Dr (and God) can help you with
sounds like you are really struggling. You need to give your life to the Lord! He is the One who gives me Strength, gives me direction, gives me Joy and Peace. Nothing else in this world is able to do that. This world is a crazy place! God has sent his Son Jesus to die for our sins so that we could spend eternity with Him when we die, and have a relationship with Him now. All you have to do is believe that, and turn yourself to Him. Without Him, I'd spend eternity in Hell! Get a Bible and start reading the book of John.it'll be a great comfort to you. Don't try to figure your future just turn to the One , Who holds your future in His hands.
He will help you get through ANYthing, broken relationships, nervous spells, and anxiety, which comes from trying to figure out tomorrow's problems, today.
God's just waiting to take all your worries, if you will just give them to Him,. You may have Panic anxiety, or maybe a medical condition like Asthma or allergies or a lung disorder. See a doctor then if no medical condition see a therapist. Just think of it just by doing that they could help you you could reach your goals and live a happy, romantic, successful, exciting, life!
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