I came from a very dis functional family and for years no one has tried to get professional help now, and?

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it happens to be me. every since I have been going to my thearpist my family has been acting like I dontlikethem or like im mad but I m not I actually want to help them see he ight which I know I have no power to do that. dI am loosing them andd it hurts very much because I feel like they hate me and they think I think I btter then they are, they dont support me emotionally physically or financially, the fights and stuff hurts my kids and me. i know what to do but its hard. by the way Im a single mom with two girls one has a serious birth defect

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Hi hon,
you don't owe your family to tell them everything. Your first respnsibility is to yourself and your children. As long as you are caring for yourself and your kids then you have nothing to worry about. You can't change anybody you can only change how you react to them.

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I'd say that your biggest priority right now should be your children, so if you don't think your family is good for them, you should do something about it. Ask your therapist.

hey do-not fret about what your friends and family think because you have seeked help that you think you need,i say amen that you are getting yourself together,your health mentally or physically should be a priorty in your life besides your daughters. Keep on getting help. You are on the right track. Ask your therapist about this.

SEEMS LIKE YOU ALREADY KNOW WHAT YOU NEED TO DO BUT YOU ARE HOLDING BACK BECAUSE OF YOUR ONE CHILD! YOU SOUND LIKE A STRONG PERSON, YES IT MIGHT BE HARD AT FIRST BUT SEEMS TO ME & THEY WAY YOU SOUND, YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE MAKING A ATTEMPT TO GET HELP.WHILE NO ONE ELSE IS?? EVERY FAMILY IS DYSFUCTIONAL ONE WAY OR ANOTHER! NO ONE HAS A PERFECT LIFE..IF THEY SAY THEY ARE THEY ARE ONLY FOOLING THEMSELVES:( GOOD LUCK TO YOU:)

Remember that each person has their own world, however disfunctional. They have built it up, lived in it, justified it, and somehow grown comfortable in it. When you started going to therapy and started to see what a good world is, the others had to either take the new, good world, or band tightly together against it. They chose the latter. People do that.

They are trying to resist the change. If they try hard enough, then they feel that maybe they will be proven right, or at least they won't have to eventually admit that they are wrong. They will rationalize themselves right into some disfunctional happiness and stay there.

Keep up the therapy and stay strong. People will try to pull you down. If you are strong enough to get this far, you are strong enough to go all the way. It might not feel like that sometimes, but it's true. Break the disfunctionality. Move on with a good, productive, happy life. i feel your pain!! i came from a disfunctional family as well!

i know it's tough though. just you & your kids try to stay away from them & you can only hope they realize they need help.

some people to get hit hard w/ a reality check to realize there wrong!! You are doing the right thing. You are seeking help for yourself. You can't change your family or what happened to you in the past but you can be supported to move forwards, if your family can't move with you then be firm and let them know you are not repeating this cycle with your own children and therefore you can't see them if they continue to behave in ways which cause distress. Don't rely on them for support, seek this from your friends and people who really care about you.
Good luck it sounds as if you are a great parent

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