My fiance is bipolar and he gets in these horrible moods and takes it out on me. How do I cope with this?
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run...run a way.... find a new boy friend.
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get a new boyfriend
get rid of the bastardd
He needs to see a psychiatrist and get on some medication ASAP. He cannot control how he behaves and it WILL NOT end without some professional help.
He needs to be hospitalized for his, and your good. You need a support system, you should not have to handle this by yourself.
Speak to the prescribing doctor and tell him/her what is going on. Ask for advice. Contact a local mental health agency and ask for advice.
get rid off him... before it gets worst... may be counseling? or wat about law enforcement agency... this is a very serious issue
Get out of there while you can. This is not a healthy situation for you or for your baby girl. Go to a shelter, go back to your family, just get away from there..NOW
get the back of your hand nice and calloused, then commence to pimp smacking him when he gets out of line.
you put up with him now ... but what about your daughter ... do you want to sentence her to a life of listening to all the yelling -
He needs serious counseling by himself and with you! Go to your Family Doctor and tell him about it.
Take your child and leave. If he doesn't take his medication he will continue to have good moods and bad moods and there is nothing you can do to help him, no matter how much you love him. You are putting yourself and your child in danger by being with this person. He's not moody, he's sick. You should be very afraid of him. Ask your family and friends for shelter and help.
try telling him to relax, and just think about it before he flips out, just tell him to relax and think before he starts to flip and ask himself if its worth flipping out. well it worked for me lol
one word worries me. FIANCE? are you seriously considering marrying this lunatic? what if you are not home and the only one there to reep the rewards of his tantrums is your daughter??
I understand completely what you are going through. Although I did not have a baby with this guy, I dated a bipolar man for seven months -- seven months of absolute utter torture. Even though you have a child with this man, you might consider dumping him ... and soon. It just gets worse and worse and if he doesn't take his meds, he is obviously not serious about taking care of his condition. Leave him, for your and your child's sake.
Tell him either he go for doctor and consoler's help, or you will leave him.
If he still dont go, you need to leave him.
Because if he doesnt love u enough to get help, it will not work out in the long run.
Trust me, i know, i got a problem, and it was my wife that forced me to get help.
Now i know the difference,. He doesnt know he is in trouble until he takes the med.
He needs to be medicated otherwise leave him. There will be no happy ending without medicine.
Its okay chick my nephew has the same thing and believe me sometimes i feal like strangling him, LOL! but its something your gonna have to get use to and learn to control. You should go out on a walk when you see the mood swing coming or go out to eat with a girlfriend, but depending on how severe it is you'll get used to it in no time!
Try finding a nice guy getting married THEN having a kid.
My husband's uncle was married to a woman with bipolar. She really needed to be in a mental institution, but no place would keep her more than a couple of weeks at a time. It was a heartbreaking situation for him.
The problem is that even when people with bipolar are taking medication, they almost always quit taking it at some point because,"they feel so good". I hate to say leave him, but for your safety and your baby's you probably need to. Especially since his episodes involve so much anger. Yes, he needs to see a psychiatrist, but you have to get out now........while you still can.
Dump him like a bad habit.
Scrub him off.
He will NEVER change he will only get worse.
Your child will be in danger.
Clear enough?
Slip lithium into his food. He needs some sort of mood stabalizer. No, seriously either get him on meds or leave. It's only going to get worse. Bipolar activity tends to get more and more extreme until there is some sort of resolution. Unfortunately, the resolution of people that do not go on medicine is often suicide. Seek help for all three of you.
Go to a women's shelter or call a hotline and ask for help. They'll probably tell you to get away from him and help you do it.
What would be very good for anyone in this matter is to have get some help. Or when he's starting to have an episode calm him down immediately, but don't try to as much other wise he will notice just stay relaxed. try to make him have some quality time with your baby so he gets his mind off of everything just mak sure is not upset you don't want the baby to get hurt.
And you brought a child into this situation because?
the answer is that you don't cope with it, you get help. just because he doesn't hit you doesn't mean it's not abuse. don't confuse love with a fear of leaving or a fear of the unknown. there are women's shelters that you can go to that are unlisted and often hidden.
call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). if you think you're not safe, you aren't please get help as soon as you can.
Oh my gosh! I feel so bad for your and your baby girl. If you have someone to go to (a friend or family member), please consider going to stay with them for awhile (only if you believe it is safe to do so). Also, call a help line asap.
I understand that you love him, but he needs help before things get any worse than they already are.
You say you are afraid...and that worries the heck out of me! Please do something as soon as you can.....PLEASE.
Sending prayers for you and your little darling
He needs drugs and/or therapy. It's that simple. If his unwillingness to get treatment is adversely affecting your relationship, your life, and the life of your child, then it's time to get out of the relationship, as difficult as that may be.
Get your baby and yourself out of that situation. He needs to take his meds or you never know what he will do. You or your child should not be there. Your child is your one and only concern, get her to safety....Good Luck...
sis--unfortunately the law of entropy says that things usually go from order to disorder....so you are right to look for help now...however, you need to do something more than look on youqa.coms. (youknowthat!) Remember, there are two sides to every story, what i am saying is that you have your faults too (im sure youknow that too!) I would say that rather than FOCUS on his weaknesses, you could come to him and talk about your own.....then if your lucky he may chat with you and even open up about his weaknesses; and since you will have already been vulnerable and allowed him to help you, maybe he will allow you to help him :)
by the way: im a believer that a child should have both parents :)
my cousins bf is that way they have a 2 yr old and he went away to mental health and came back and was good for like 3 days and then he got abusive hurt her and the baby, id get out of there why i can be4 u end up hurt. try writing him a note telling him how it makes u feel when he gets in one of his moods and tell him that u love him and will be there for him no matter what but u cant deal with his outrages especially now that u have a 6 week old baby, he should understand and try to straighten up. MEDS dont work trust me they tried like 12 diff kinds on me and none helped me.
Lay down the law. Tell him he needs to start taking his medication and seeing a psychologist or you will leave him. If he is not willing to then for your own safety you have to leave. Bipolar does not get better left untreated. For the sake of you, him, and your child he needs treatment.
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