Help! I've reached the end of my rope!?
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Prioritize what is the most important. You left yourself out, give yourself some quality time to recharge energy, such as a nice long walk or bath. If you feel alone even in relationships (and that happens a lot), tell the people concerned how you feel. Good luck!
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Take some time out. Do something just for you. Relax over a good book. Go for a walk. Count your blessings. Think of the people that are unable to do all the things you can do. Smile at someone. Say "thank you".
find some time for yourself even if it is just 1/2 hour to take a hot shower, a nap or go for a walk just to calm down. we all have demanding lives that make us want o rip our hair out lol and need to stop everything we are doing and find one thing to get our batteries re-charged again good luck to you
Can I ever relate to that. First thing I did was to focus on one thing at a time...resolve the work issues...then the educational issue...and last but not least focus on the social issues....I do not mean to do them one at a time but normally what happens is spillover...by that I mean a problem in one area createes issues in all areas....Mostly the social or relationship issues creat problems in other areas...solve that issue and the rest will look after themselves....
Find some time for yourself. Take a nice warm bath with some soft mood music. Take deep calming breaths and just relax. Or even get out and take awalk thru a park with flowers and stop and smell the roses. We all have been there and we all come back it some times just takes a little longer than others. Breath.
Create some "ME" time.
I, too, have been feeling sooo overwhelmed. Yesterday, I started to read "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff with your Family" by Richard Carlson. He has a lot of GREAT tips. It's easy to read because you can just read the contents and skip around to anything you want. Of course, I recommend the whole book. He also has one for Work and a general one, etc.
Take a mental holiday, go AWOL for a couple daze
Many of us have been there. It can feel very overwhelming at times and we don't know what to do. It's hard to not try to maintain perfection with everything we do.
To cheer me up at times I do to Metacafe or YouTube to watch movies that make me laugh or play online games to take my mind off of things (I have been doing a lot of that daily).
Try to find a stress releaser you can do by yourself whenever you can -- it helps a lot!
It seems a lot of us is expected, but it does get easier as time passes and with age.
Yeah work can take u down sometimes i guess. Ive not started working personally yet but I'm sure it can. school can be hard sometimes but if you manage your time well enough then you can probably get through. If you think working is slowing you down you probably could stop working and concentrate in school. in that way you can improve in school and then get a good job. If you really need to work then you could drop out of school for awhile maybe and then just work. If you want to do both you could find a different job which isn't as strenuous. School is seriously fun, you should enjoy it while you can, and at the same time study hard. When you do schoolwork you should totally focus on it so you can over it soon and then chill. About de relationships i really don't think you need to worry about that. if you cant get a boyfriend doesn't really matter. if you were dumped or recently broke up then you should be strong. don't waste yourself away just because of one dude. i know what it feels like. but its alright after awhile even though i felt like i was going to die. lol. don't worry...cuz every little thing is going to be alright!
-Good Luck, take care. Hope you wont feel as lonely anymore.
cut out the unnecesary-the relationship. i bet it accounts for about 60 percent of your stress. let it go.
Happiness is the absence of frustration. Contentment is being ok with the level of frustration you have.
When you have a moment - say 5 minutes, grab some blank paper and label each page differently - work - school - relationships - one page for each of the problem areas in your life. Put what would be happiness at the top - like for work, deadlines that were do-able or whatever. Determine which problem area is frustrating you the most, and set the other pages aside.
Write down all sub problems (quickly, don't obsess over getting it "right", you can always come back and delete or add more) - like certain co-workers' attitudes, lack of pay raise, whatever. Again decide which sub problem is the most frustrating. Then determine if you can do anything to solve/eliminate it (and what you can do). If you can't who can, and what they would have to do.
This will give you a sense of what is overwhelming you the most. And just remember, we are all here with you - some in the same discouraging boat. We will all get through it - together, cause deep down inside, we are tougher than we think we are.
We all feel like fish guts sometimes!! You can do it!! Did you ever get an A on a test? Did anyone ever say you were a nice person? Did you ever have fun? You can get back to that world - just realize your dreams and expectations aren't set in stone, and nobody has a clear path in life!! Feeling bad makes you realize why others complain about life too! But they can strive to temper their expectations, reduce exposure to bad situations --and you can too in just a few easy decisions.
1. REDUCE your TOLERANCE for STRESS: Don't try to get the A or B or C+ in class. If you need to, immediately drop some class or cut back on your work schedule, if you don't need the money badly. Your health is your wealth. But don't drop out or stop work altogether if you can help it. Make sure reducing work is accepted. A good manager will totally understand - but find out what they will do if you change your work routine. Explain that you won't be any good to your employer if you have a 'total wipeout'! It's not likely, but don't think anyone is immune!! Well, people feel depressed about 10% of the time. So one year it can happen to you - to anybody. It's part of being human. Machines get worn parts, and people get upset, feel hurt, and overwhelmed. Welcome to life. Now you know how everybody feels sometimes! People need rest and happiness to continue functioning. So people will understand, or they are unhelpful or uncaring.
2. Check for a happiness quiz online, to help you improve your happiness.. Search for Happy Planet.
3. Realize that 8 hours of sleep will do tons to help you. 7 is considered by sleep experts a health minimum. 9 is not unusual for true happiness. It must be continuous, in a quiet, comfortable place. Don't let people rob you of health through annoyances.
4. Eat natural foods, (nothing like snack cakes, Cheetos, Coke, but instead actual fresh fruits, raw vegetables, non-fried fish and meats). Multivitamins are not bad either. Alchohol depresses. Water is the best drink, then soy milk, unsweetened green tea, rice milk, milk, but not juice and other drinks. They are too many calories. Coffee is not helpful, but it is addictive.
5. Proper rest after eating- 30 minutes minimum total relaxing environment. Mandatory. Rest during the day (15-20 minutes total uninterrupted rest for every two hours is the minimum). Rest, laughter, friends, exercise.... If your work is too physical or sedentary that can cause trouble. Change your job if necessary. Try meditation, which means quiet, relaxed doing nothing :) in a nice setting.
6. Relationships: find someone who you can really really talk to about that. There are so many variables. Overcrowding can cause trouble... maybe you need more free time. It's your life - you can control what kind of interaction you will accept. Not enough friends can be bad: being in a bad mood means less fun, so friendships will improve after you feel better.
If you have nobody wise to chat with, pay someone to listen to you! If you have to pay to see a psychologist who does one-on-one or group therapy, you can see you're not alone and learn a lot about other's problems. But don't expect this to help happiness any more than meditation. It's just more interesting maybe and social. Clubs, neighbors, other social groups and activities are important for feeling good. So is some solitude. Get out in nature and get SUNSHINE or you will feel sad.
IF YOU REALLY FEEL YOU TRIED THE THINGS YOU CAN: Are you failing to consider your body physically?: It's scary, but it may be what brings you true wisdom and peacefulness.
7. Remember that your brain is part of your body. It's made of tissue and fluids, and chemicals and what you eat. If something in you, or in your environment is strange, you may feel strange. It may take time, or even medicine to improve that. It's scary to have a broken leg - it's scary to feel mentally ill too! But there is really a lot of love in the successful psychiatrists (not psychologists) that are medical doctors as well. They treat your whole mind and body, and are so friendly, hard-working, perhaps genius, dedicated to you, AND expensive -- but wouldn't you pay $150 an hour to get your heart fixed if it had a valve defect? Well, isn't your life worth $1500.00? What's ten hours of appointments for a happy life? It's worth it? I think it is. Accept help! It's cool.
8. Really, if you try other things, and nothing seems right -- Get medical *evaluations* help and at least see some psychiatrists for initial evaluations of them and you. Why not? It's a scientifically validated way to improve depression -- continuous bad mood for 24 hours or more on a regular basis. **However, get a second and third opinion of whether you need meds or really have depression... You can be hopeful if you don't, or if you do, and found 3 good psychiatrists, or just one. But please rely on experts or really successful, together, happy people, not on people like crystal healers, faith healers, mystics or the neighbor who advises drinking, and is also an alchoholic divorcee who lost her jobs. Remember, simple antidepressants without a person who is paid to care for all of you is not as effective. That means just visiting a doctor is less helpful.
Happiness drugs: moderate exercise if not already part of work or daily routine, chocolate, kisses, pets, kids, hugs, great music, good friends, family, singing, sex (if in a commited, mature relationship).... nature, quiet... and certain prescriptions.
Life messup drugs: orgies, bars, wild parties, illegal activities, hateful people, crowded conditions, bright lights at night, tv or computer use over 2 hours a day, robot-licking, etc. etc.!
P.S. > My happiness score was 95. I felt like c**p before, lost a job, felt life sucked, considered all sorts of options, and tried psychology but not a psychiatrist. I didn't feel bad long enough. I've lost loves, a car, a computer, my pets, etc. Up, down, up.... It's the pushups of your emotions!! Saying... change... reduce your expectations for a rosy world today, and maybe see a different sort of rosy world later with you a wise older person. Oh, and good of you to seek advice and insight. People like me love to help people like you... And in the end, like one year from now, or 1000 years, it just doesn't matter, so why feel too upset?
Life really isn't fair, or even good for everyone, compared to the wealth, pleasure cruises, roses and love that some lucky others get a lot of. Compare yourself to the criminally insane; to the limbless war victim; to the crack baby. Maybe you have a lot to be thankful for. You can research happiness tips yourself - they can't. Yet, we all have a shot at getting a little bit of something nice in our lives before we are gone and then it is all just stardust until we are reevolved into something else... a comet? a plant in a floating space-scraper? Ha ha ha ha ha ha!! And even those lucky people who seem to float through life will get old, yes UGLY, smelly, and die. And someone hates them too - so they aren't living like absolute lucky perfect beings.
And as the seasons come and go, here's something you might like to know. There are fairies everywhere: under bushes, in the air, playing games just like you play, singing through their busy day. So listen, touch, and look around - in the air and on the ground. And if you watch all nature's things, you might just see a fairy's wing.
BEEN THERE, DONE THAT!
I know exactly how you feel.
Take a breather, even just for a few moments. It is easy to get overwhelmed and stressed out. It's obvious that you are strong, because you are accomplishing so much, and you have the strength to reach out and ask for help when you need it.
You can do it! Just hang in there and take it one step at a time.
SLOW DOWN. START THINKING OF YOURSELF, AS FAR AS YOUR NEEDS AND EVEN WANTS! WHEN YOU GET YOURSELF IN TUNE, YOU WILL REALIZE WHAT YOU NEED, SUCH AS REST, A FUN VACATION, CHANGE OF JOB...WHATEVER IT MAY BE, BUT YOU MUST SLOW DOWN TO TAKE NOTICE!!! LET US KNOW AND SMILE!
youre on the wrong rope and need a new one! Seriously though , I have days and sometimes weeks like that . What I do is make myself do one positive thing that day ...just one. (Keeps my mind of of my probs and eventually I'm glad I did something.) Also ...I excercise .....even walking in place for a while. Then,,, I rent a bunch of stand up comedy and go into comedy mode for a while . Laughter is very good for the mind, body and soul. If I'm still feeling anxious or "crazy" ... I write down my thoughts ...whatever comes to mind ..(Then I throw it away so nobody reads it !!LOL)
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