How to ask for help?

Question: Ok, I'm 13 and I cut. No one knows because I don't want them to totally freak out. I know that I need to stop, and I thought I could, but I can't. I always thought that I would be able to stop whenever but it's like an addiction, whenever I am feeling sad or overwelmed I cut. I need to ask for help but I don't know how. Can anyone tell me how to ask for help without having everyone totally freak out or get mad?
-Gabby

Answers:
Honey, first of all you have to quit, it is not doing you any good to cut yourself. You must be really hurting inside to be cutting yourself outside, next time you feel the urge to cut, punch a pillow, go outside and scream as loud and as much as you want, cry on your favorite stuffed animal. Now, that is only part of it, now go to a responsible mature adult, somebody that you know will not freak out whoever you feel comfortable talking to, do NOT tell your friends, or anybody at school, because they may not seem like they are freaking out, but if word gets around you are going to feel even more hurt than what you do now. When I was your age and needed to talk to somebody, I always went to my youth pastor at the chuch, even though i hardly ever attended church, she was there for me. I didnt feel comfortable telling my parents my problems. If you are open with your parents, one or the other, or both talk to them, let them know you need to talk first, tell them not to freak out tell them you need their help, stay calm and than show them where you are cutting. Please please please quit cutting! and please do something good for yourself, something small or big whatever it is go do something that you have not done in a long time, treat yourself to an icecream, or buy a new shirt, get a new haircut, redesign your bedroom, small things like this will help you remember that there may be big problems in your life or not, but there are still postive things out there today, and people out there care about you! I care about you and I don't even know you!

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You must tell someone. When the problem involves your own well-being then it is more important that you tell someone and they freak out. If you dont, you could end up dying from it. You can e-mail me if you want someone to talk to that really cares.

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