what can i do to make friends and not seem despret?
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I hear what you're saying. I have been in this town for almost five years and while I was going to college I had a group of friends but after graduation we all went our seperate ways. Since then I have been girl-friendless and miss craking up with them or just hanging out at Applebees after work with them. I have had no luck making any friends since. I do talk to people often but like you no one I can hang out with. I guess my advice (because is what I will do aswell) is continue being yourself and do activities you enjoy. Although it stinks to not have a BFF :( hang in there!
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be yourself don't worry about making friends they will come just worry about yourself
You have to be comfortable with yourself and who you are to attract others to be your friend, instead of trying to cling on to others.
It is just that you feel so.
Might be you are asking some one who don't want to be with you. Let them be in their place. It is for sure that you will find your friendsure. Moreover even you don't want to do whatever opther asks for you. So if not one then nask soem one else then someonelse... be cool. Take things as it come.
It's tough. The best way is to truly not be desperate. And the only way to do that is to be strong for yourself. Its hard to make new friends if you're down, but you're down cuz you don't have friends. The catch 22 that stuck on you, but you don't need them. As soon as you are more comfortable with You being your best friend, people will be drawn to you. Confidence will make them confide.
I know what that's like. I always wanted a best friend and some good close friends.
First ask yourself, would you rather 10 friends, or 3 best friends?
Find out which is a priority, you don't have to have 100% one of them, but which would you prefer if you did. Now go out and be active. Don't try too hard or you'll scare people. Be yourself. I know that's hard to really grasp but try. Join clubs nearby. Go to civic centres that have classes you may like and join. If your not in college apply for community classes, just a few. Learn a skill you've always wanted to learn and maybe find a new friend, lover, or best friend in the class with the same interests.
Good luck, my friend!
You can do it!
The key to not seeming desperate is not BEING desperate. While having friends is certainly a worthwhile goal, you need to eliminate the time pressure you are feeling to find someone right now. Relax and find things that you enjoy doing alone for a while. These new interests and the lack of desperation will be more likely to make you interesting to others.
When I was younger, my family moved a few times across the country, from one side to the other. It's hard starting all over, making new friends, etc. I was just myself and if people didn't like me, oh well. Easier said then done, right? Well hon, it takes time and you are only 20. If you are not active in different activities, then join groups, find people with similiar interests and go from there. Don't put yourself out at first but definately be friendly. After hanging out with your "new friends" in different activities and you... find someone that you can trust and ask her/him to hang out one night and grab a bite to eat, maybe double date. Go from there. Becareful and not devulge your deepest darkest secrets until you are comfortable that the person is a good "secret keeper."
i'll be your penpal dogmicjoe@yahoo.com. just try joining social groups. i'm 24 and at times feel lonely.
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