i have a good family.so why do i not trust anddo not like them too well?

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i have a fantastic family, they help me out and are usualu kind, hell their better them most peoples families. but yet i hate them. i know pwoplw with not very nice parents and yet they still love their parents. i on the other have hape both of mine. i really hate my father right no for lettime me live with him. iam 20 years old i should hbe on my own no living with him but he says its ok, every one says its ok but to me its an insult like saying iam too dumb to be on my own. another example is how people are close to their extended family, yes i love my grand parents and aunts and such but it would not hurt me the least to never see or speak to them. when i left for 5 months the only reasion i had any contact with any one in my family is cause they askem me too not cause i felt like it. any insight and yes i know my grammers bad.

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It seems like you are harboring some kind of resentment towards them possibly because you see them as a fantastic family and you feel you can't reach that standard because you are unhappy with yourself. I came to this conclusion because you stated that you believe you should be on your own and when people say it is o.k. that you live with your dad you take it as an insult and think it means your too dumb to be on your own.
When actually that is not what they believe that is what you believe they mean.
I think if you take some time to think about what frustrates you the most in your life you might find it is not your family you hate maybe it is that you are unhappy at where you are in life. The good thing is you have a whole life ahead of you with a family that is great. So when you figure out what it is that you need to be happy with yourself you will have a wonderful family to go to.

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I felt like this when I was your age too- and I had a good family. I think that it is just a rebellious stage. You want your independence. I think that once you reach 25 you will change your tune and you'll like your family more. Just don't do anything in the meantime that will permanently estrange you from them. Find your own space right now and don't worry about them so much.

Well I enjoy living at home and im 19, I love it here in the valley. Maybe you need more space than you have/you need a certain amount of downtime to yourself. Maybe you get annoyed by their personality. Clashing personalities is all i can think of, just respect eachothers differences and go on a little vacation if you can. It sounds like you are angry with yourself and are taking out on your family, because they are not angry with you. Kinda a reverse psychology kinda thing. Stop being so angry and hateful towards yourself, and maybe you will like them more.

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