for people who have experience with borderline personality disorder?

Question:

is there any possible way to make a relationship work? i just started seeing this guy and we really liked eachother now all of a suden i cant stand him i cant stand to be around him i hate his guts and he didnt even do anything. he is the nicest person in the world. should i just give up on relationships until i can get my BPD under control?

Answers:
In my experience (and I have BPD) it can work...but its like any relationship...you have to work at it. Relationships are difficult anyway...more so for a borderline, because we cant seem to keep our emotions under control. I would not say that it is necessary to give up on relationships until the BPD is under control.
However, try to consider that maybe this guy just isnt the one for you. Quite possibly your relationship problems have nothing to do with the BPD. Good luck...i m me if you wanna talk some more. I dont exactly find alot of borderlines to talk to LOL.

I do feel sorry for your situation.
Those personality disorders are harder to cure than a disease itself like depression.They are the persons stamina, part of him/her.
I think the main therapy is psychotherapy but not medication.
You look very sincere to me trying to work it out.
Ask him to help you.
use some reasoning, why you hate him? did he do anything worng? if not, then you are wrong &you have to start thinking that you may be wrong in a lot of situations & starting even allowing people to make advantage of you, .In his case you will make sure that you will no hurt nobody but you may get hurt yourself a litttle but thats ok,its important not to hurt any body.
I think this approach toward yourself will help you control & hopefully overcome this bad trend.
One last thing to remember: patients may use depression or schizophrenia to defend themselves in the court in but they can not use personality disorders (like BLP & Antisocial personality) to do so.These are not admissible to the court.
Good luck.

I have been in a relationship with someone with BPD, and I have to say it's really rough.

At the very least, you owe it to anyone that you're in a relationship with to be honest about your problem, and to be actively seeking treatment. If a guy knows that it's not his fault when you go into borderline behavior, he'll find the situation easier to deal with. But if you can't even acknowledge the problem, definitely avoid relationships and work on yourself until you can.

Difficult, but definitely possible.

My mother had BPD, my father was married to her for 15 years (till he died), i was born. The relationship must have worked at some level, but it wasn't easy for any of us.

Think about how lonely you'd be when there's no ppl around you someday, if you keep breaking up.

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