Am I wrong????M?

Question:

I have to make a HUGE decision here and I am so afraid to make the wrong one.
My husband and I have been together for 6 years, he has 2 children from a previous marriage and he and I have a 4 year old together.
When my husband and I are alone or with our youngest we get along pretty good but when his other kids are around the stress builds and we fight. His kids can't stand me and I can't figure out why. I care for them, cook, clean, talk to and listen to them. I am firm but fair and give them structure in a comfortable home but...they will not accept me. It is so bad that my step son (15yrs) actually shot one of my most beloved pets while I was away on a holiday and he shot it because his sister told him to...to hurt me. My heart was broken but there were NO reprocussions for what this kid did. Life went on as usual for him...I suffered the loss and no one cared. I feel that no one cares at all about my feelings in any of this.

Answers:
I lived a similar situation with my ex-wife. She had two teenage daughters that were allowed to do basically anything they wanted. My wife allowed the 18 yr old's 23 yr old boyfriend to MOVE IN with us! Then, on one occasion, the 16 yr old's boyfriend was allowed to spend the night in her room with the door closed.

I got out. You should get out. There is no place for you there. You are just a convenient girlfriend that does housework. You are not a wife, or you would be given the privileges of one. You are not a mother to those children, because your husband will not permit it. It's not the kids fault really, it's the fathers fault. He does not respect you, therefore he does not require the children to respect you.

GET OUT NOW, and thank me later!

Your husband needs to step up and get in the middle of it. HE needs to ensure you are treated with respect by his children.

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Am I wrong????M?

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