unhappy, but dont know what to do? Advise please?
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"College life sucks." LOL
College, like most things in life, is what you make it. There are so many opertunites to make new friends while at university! Go meet some random new people, become friends with them. Don't let the friends that don't call keep you from enjoying life at college.
boyfriends/girlfriends come and go often.
Majors: most people change their major at LEAST once during college. If you are unhappy about it, look into something else that you are intrested in.
As for family, brothers are usally protective, but perhaps we can get a little to protective. Talk to him, and tell him thank you for looking out for you, but that you need to live your own life.
Mother: Tell her that it is your life to live, not her's. Be kind about it though. keep telling her how things are going, but perhaps dont tell her every little thing, but be more general.
You got it right though in your first oine: life is ok! - it is what you make it! enjoy it today, as tomorrow by very defination can not come.
good luck!
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Keep talking to your Dad. Have a long talk about your life with him, if you don't feel like you can with your Mom.
there are times when it seems everything and everyone are against you, but you cant give in to that. it is not really ever the case that everyone is against you. even if they are, you must not turn against yourself. separate the inner most person from yourself and write down what you would tell a person facing the things you are facing. then put yourself back inside yourself and listen to your own advice.
i know i simplified this a lot, but you can be your most powerful advocate, ask me more if you need more help.
You have to choose to be happy. May sound like bull,but we choose how we feel. We get to call how we react to things.Some of us are prone to feeling a certain way, however, you can still overcome that if you're willing to do what's necessary. What's necessary ? Only you know. Idea=getting involved at school (meeting new people in a club or whatever the ****), etc. Sounds like you're just frustrated with the way things are going. If you're prone to depression,then seek therapy. I tend to have a negative/critical outlook,college life isn't the best, family went crazy b/c of Katrina (I need a car too now), but I simply choose to ignore that and make the best of things. Humor is my way to cope. Maybe that would work for you too. Think of things you need to do to feel happy, and do them, just make sure they're the real things. Hope you feel better tiger ;-)
Sorry to tell you but you are normal. It is called growing up! When you are in high school it is one big soap opera. After high school your friends have to get on with their lives also. It is hard to adjust to. You are no longer considered a kid...that takes getting use to also. As far as dad getting what you want and mom not......You are an adult now. It makes it easier when your parents help but maybe mom wants you to at least try to figure things out on your own. It is nice that your brother is protective, mine doesn't even talk to me but once a year. What I am trying to say is...it is normal for you to feel down. The feeling wont last forever. Best wishes!
stop worrying about others and focus on you. they are happy while you are mad. think about it at least you have a home to live in. there are lots of people who are homeless. life is what you make it. no one can make you sad unless you let them. be grateful that you are healthy to go to school. some people are too sick out there.
is there alcohol in your family? you can go to Alanon, Alateen.....
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