Do you have any tips for dealing with nervousness?
Question:
The problem is I only think that I'm a little nervous when in fact I must be very nervous because it affects my demeanor and personality in a very exagerrated way.
Any advice on how to recognise how nervous one is, use nerves to your own advantage in a stressful situation or similar experiences and how you dealt with it is much appreciated.
Answers:
Sounds like you maybe have two things going on.
1. primary nervousness due to the situation (exam etc).
2. Secondary nervousness, i.e. you are worried that your primary nervousness will effect your performance.
Firstly, you should know that there is nothing wrong with being a bit nervous before a big event like an exam. It is a natural physiological response to a stressful situation and to some extent your increased level or alertness can in fact be useful.
Secondly, my method for exams was to control by nervousness by gaining control over the outcome of the exam, in short, planning. Make sure you have a copy of the syllabus or a complete set of lecture notes. Once you have those then you know, what it is that you might be expected to know. Now find the past papers from the exam or example papers so you know what kind of questions you can expect to be asked. Now revise and do practice questions until you feel that you are ready for the exam i.e. until you know everything on your list of things you have to know, or until you know a large enough proportion of the material to be fairly sure of getting the grade you want. If you really have things fully under control you will be less nervous.
Also, you can try relaxation excercises and meditation e.g. www.shinzen.org meditation not only helps you relax but also makes you more aware of what is going on in your mind and body, i.e. it will make it easier for you to tell if you are nervous.
try to be sociable, social contact reduces stress (provided you don't spend the whole time scaring each other with speculation about the exam).
Depending on your situation (don't know how old your are) sexual pleasure can also reduce stress.
Other Answers:
have a few double vodka's
TAKE DEEP BREATHS TRY TO RELAX THINK OF SOMETHING THAT YOU ENJOY FOCUS ON THAT THOUGHT OTHERWISE YOU HAVE ANXIETY MEDICATION MAY WOK FOR YOU
If you take ginseng and gingko biloba, they help me out.
A common way of controlling nervousness is through breath control. Concentrate on taking long slow breaths.
Don't be afraid to pause for a moment and gather your thoughts.
It's also important that you be well-prepared for the performance and know what you are going to say.
i suffer from anxiety which is a for of being nervouse and gives me panic attacks quite often and i can get them just by doing somthing different or meeting new people i have breathe slowly and i try and think of somone or somthing that im familliar with like my mum just block whats bothering you out.. you control it it dont control you fall in love. wen u feel nervous look at ur lovers picture, ur stress will vanish believe me love is life.
am fawaz mono.
Two things - Rescue Remedy is fantastic - basically herbs in brandy, it really works and can't really be classed as medication.
second thing - breathing exercises - breathe in to a count of four and out for a count of six, this should slow the heart rate and calm your mind as you concentrate.
However, if you're wired on adrenaline, it can be really useful if you harness it rather than allowing the panic to take over. This is why Rescue Remedy is so helpful, it takes off the edge of panic, allowing you to use the adrenaline your way.
And remember to chill - nothing's worth getting stressed about. Cup of tea sometimes works for me. :)
Best wishes!
anxiety is a natural state and can sometimes be attributed to the fight or flight syndrome, this is a natural state to find oneself in, however some may feel this hyper extended. fight or flight is a state where ur body produces more adrenaline to deal with a situation. it can be stimulated by a warrior going into battle or a exam! its a built in self preservation, in ur case the exam sets b4 u a circumstance of anxiety caused by worry or stress, understanding this and acknowledging the scenario of the body and minds natural instincts can help u understand, accept and make friends with ur natural urges and therefore overcome any hyper extended periods. dave
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