Do abused children grow up to seek abuse..?


Question:
seek abuse from others such as life partners, friends, ect..? Even if they are not aware of it do they do it subconciously? Is it easy to correct or are they just "cursed"?

Answers:
I believe they do until they hit rock bottom and realize that only THEY can change thier lives and how their lives turn out. I had to learn that one the hard way.

I was emotionally/mentally, sexually, and physically abused as a child and raped at 18. I did in turn go to an abusive man and was with him for 20 years (half my life). I went thru much counseling, read a lot of self help books, and did a TON of work on myself. I finally got my self respect, self esteem, and self worth and left the jerk. I had to leave him emotionally and mentally before I could do it physically, tho. I have since found a man that complements me and doesn't try to 'complete' me. He doesn't believe in abuse in any way, shape, or form, and neither do I.

I am now very, very happy and we plan to be married next year. So, as you can see, I am the one that made the choice to change my life, didn't blame the people that raised me (I was adopted by grandparents), got the help I needed, and totally changed my life around. I believe that anyone can do this, IF they choose to. They have to really want to, have the want and need to change their lives, get the help they need to do it, then just do it. It is new to them so it takes a lot of time and practice. Going into the unknown, especially for those who have been abused, is super scarey, but to get out of the cycle of abuse, going into that unknown MUST be done.
Sometimes they grow normally i think, but maybe they can also seek abuse.


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