why are some people like me just really cold?

Question:

i am a really cold person some say. i have no real loce for my family and i could just live finr with out them and if one of them dies i dont think it would do too much too me. i know i would feel the death and be sad but what i would feel is numbness mainly and others would see some one who could not care less. now aside from my family i have a hard tild trusting people hell it took a year befor i felt ok to go to my friends house in high school and i know for a fact i will stab any of my friends in the back to save my *** (i would not do that too my family though) a third thing is that i have tried to be come friendly with the other sex but i think i always come accross as not interested even though i am hard as a rock! i can say or show what is needed to attract them.

how do i war up so i can have what i need to advance in my life. maby i would not be so frusterated with life if i was warmer.

any ideas?

Answers:
Has someone hurt you? It sounds like you have subconsciously thrown up a lot of walls to protect yourself from having to feel (and consequently, having to lose anything.) Sometimes our minds and hearts throw up these walls without our realization as a defense mechanism. If you don't get close to anything or allow anyone to get close to you, you have nothing to lose.

The problem is that you've never gained either. If you can't feel anything, or truly experience love and loyalty to other human beings, what joy or meaning is there in your life?

I would say start with some conscious effort to take interest in other people and consciously force yourself to express sensitivity toward others. Perhaps after you are in the habit, the benefits of sensitivty and caring will become apparent to you, but it may not happen until you have demonstrated them first.

Something bad must've happened to you when you were a child that makes you put up a wall around yourself. You want to be the one who hurts somebody else before they do it to you.

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