What do you think the emotional effects of not having someone of not having a mutual love? More in details...?
Question:
How do you think this person would function? What if at the end of the time frame someone supposedly does feel the same finally but it's online and they never actually meet despite talking on the phone and it only being a somewhat short distance.
Looking long, well thought answers.
Answers:
I am a straight 36 year old man, who had similar childhood experiences.
I can list what abnormalities i have noticed, but will also say that i have a half brother who grew up the same way, and he is VERY successful, in all the things i am not. So, each personality coops with it in it own way.
I have attention deficit disorder, and most of the symptoms i have seem to stem from this background, though i was not diagnosed until recently, the particular type i have is often not spotted, and is more common in women.
Mostly i have difficulty understanding male coworkers coupled with shyness, self esteem issues. I do not fear crowds, but do have troubles understanding peoples emotions, including my own.
One of the most noticeable issues is dating. I have no clue what is expected from me, and tend to be to passive, a man needs to be assertive and more aggressive, taking the lead or he will never date, or so it seems to me. Until recently, i had no proof that any female had an interest in me, even now i am lost as to what to do about it/how to recognize it. I suspect i will die without children or a wife, or any friends.
I am easily addicted to just about anything... from cigarettes to video games.. anything that allows me to escape.
As to function, i had a lot of troubles starting out, with weak interpersonal skills and no job skills, i was barely able to keep a fast food job, and tended to move every couple years, finding a new place to live and a new job. I have only had one job that lasted over two years. I often have nobody to talk to or ask questions/opinions, so i have to figure out everything on my own. This limits my advancement oppertunities/ability to learn/grow past it. Counseling would likely help, but who can afford it?
Depresion was also a leading factor for most my life, though not always. I often felt it was the only way out. Another major problem for me was no driver's liscense or car. I was 32 when i got my first one. Most of the officer's testing for it where men, so i did not seem confident enough for them to pass me. This further limited my oppertunites.
I guess i am trying to illustrate some of the major problems, but confidence for example affects men a lot in everyday life.
The end result was that for a large portion of the time, i would supress my emotions, and eventualy get a lot of anger build up. Finaly, as i get older, it is turning into sorrow for not having someone to love, and dieing alone, with no children, and this also brings a feeling of failer.
are youo talking about my ex bf?
he was emotionally unable to love
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