Question on friends?

Question:

OK, is it ok for someone who is depressed to sort of unload things on thier friends or families around them that know about it? What i mean is, i have been diagnosed depressed, and i know that means i need support but i don't want to ask for it because i feel it is like i want all the attention and am not willing to give any. Also, my friends (in the past) think that i am weak and that my probs are no big. So, am i overstepping things by pushing my issues that bother me on them or what? I want to have support, but not by making my friends upset or making thier lives harder. Plus, my group is pretty secretive, so i have no idea if they are really upset by things around them, or if nothing is really going on so i wouldn't know when would be a good time to ask for help. Also, past experiences of sharing w/ my friends were bad, said i wanted sympathy, attention, am weak, etc... I don't if i am wrong for asking for so much help (seems little to me), or if they are wrong for brushing me off?

Answers:
No. I don't think you are wrong at all.

Depression is a legit condition and many of us will go through it at one time or another. Some people are more prone to more chronic forms of it. It can sometimes be just a persistant dark cloud or severe or sometimes even morbid. It can impair function, social livelyhood, and overall quality of life. It sounds like you know this all too well.

Depression does not mean somebody is weak. Abraham Lincoln had a nervous breakdown at 29. Sir Winston Churchill suffered with it most of his life. He called it his 'black dog'. I'd be curious to see who would consider these people weak characters by most standards.

Not everybody likes to talk about depression, or much less likes to do any good research on it before forming opinions. It should be talked about and nobody should have to look down on you for doing so. I wouldn't look down on somebody if they were prone to high blood sugars or heart conditions.

If its does affect you though, theres hope. For generations, people would just rule out the depressed as having melancholia or evil spirits and leave it at that. modern medicine and psychology can make a difference.

Along with that is a good suppot system. I hate to sound cliche (and I probably sound like a depression pamphlet right now), 'you can pick your friends, but you can't pick your relatives'. They may not understand it. They may have similar issues but handle it completely differently. Maybe their tolorance to ignore their own problems is higher. Maybe they confuse depression with a bad attitude, self pity, or whining. Maybe the depression is causing you to do those things without even realizing it, in which case, you definitely should talk to soembody. But if nobody is around who you feel open to talking to, it makes it all the harder! Oi!

What you want to do is actively treat it. Give your black dog a zoloft milkbone if necessary. Teach at few tricks. Find what helps relieve it for yourself and get you in touch with the world again. Find ways to connect. And find people who can support you instead of treating you less that what you deserve as a human. There are support groups, online support groups, various other activities that can help. Expose yourself to different types of people. You may get the support where you least expect it.

just live the way you like so nothing will hapened again

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