How do you get past the Anger and the "Why Me?" stages of chronic illness?
Question:
Having said that, I wonder how many people out there with chronic illnesses such as diabetes, asthma, and metal ilnesses have worked past being angry and asking "why me?"
I am personally just entering this stage and I don't like it. I don't like feeling angry all the time. My official diagnosis is Major Depression, and I have long ago confronted the idea of having a mental illness. However, I have only just started to face the whole concept of it never going away.
Any advice?
Answers:
Partly it just takes time to accept that there's no reason, it just is what it is and it's a regular life challenge that you have. Yeh, other people don't have this one, but a lot of them have something else. It's like accepting death or any other major negative - denial, anger... are phases towards acceptance. It'd be a lot easier if depression wasn't so misunderstood and mental illnesses weren't so stigmatized.
Working with a therapist helps a lot, and finding the right meds that add back a more natural feeling are really important. I'm getting to where I accept that this is just a part of my life that I have to deal with responsibly. Am still on the med merry-go-round trying to find what works best, tho. So, frustration and anger about it are still things I'm working through. And, yeh, accepting that it's a forever thing and meds will probably always be part of my life is a tough one to swalow, but that's just the way it is. It's part of who I am and it's part of what makes me unique, not less than others or deficient - which is sometimes more of a challenge to appreciate than at others, but it really is true for me and it's true for you, too.
Anger and denial are part of any illness or even death. It is a fact of life, you just need to take it one day at a time. Maybe go get some counseling to deal with it or talk to a friend or someone you can trust.
Good luck!
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