i feel humiliated?
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I bet it looks cool. Yellow is nice. Don't let the colour of the house get you down, just be glad you have a house, don''t live in hot Africa.
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i am so sorry to be blunt but i cannot see what your problem is. live and let live...
if it makes your mum feel better then so be it..
incidently whos house is it? who pays the bills?
Are you so shallow that you would deny your poor mother some happiness just because of a colour?
i'd say that if someone laughs, laugh with them,
and if they humiliate you,
slug their face sis!!!
It's your parents house. Just something you have to deal with it until you can get a place of your own.
Move out and buy a place you won't feel so humiliated living in. Enjoy the electric, water, repair, mortgage, telephone, TV, and Internet bills too. And I assume you will want to eat too. You poor ignorant little girl. The biggest problem in that house is YOU.
Don't worry how your neighbours look at you. ( You muz be thinking, "Ya right.") I think your mum is trying to cheer up in the house.
Otherwise, she won't choose yellow, the happy colour.
Parents are strange creatures, and it is their inaliable right to embarrass their young.
Look, it's just a house. If your mom is mentally ill, then just laugh it off to your friends and say something like "Yeah, well you know my mom's whacked."
I have mental illness, and my sons just tell everyone that I'm whacky, and that's o.k. with me. They know what to expect, and my kids aren't embarrassed.
what the first person said..
why would you let the color of your house get your self-esteem down. yellow is nice color my aunt had her house painted that color and i love it. it's uplifting when you see a yellow house. And i'm sure it's not a bright bright yellow
just ignore it.....it will pass and eventually won't bother you as much...my mother did the same thing except our house wound up pink....i don't mean light pink,i'm talking pepto bismal pink...ughhh....but that was many moons ago and now i'm happy to say her house is a respective beige....
Honey, your self esteem should not depend on the color of your MOM'S house, get over it. When you grow up and buy your own house, then don't paint it a happy color it you don't want to. Are you to scared that your little 14 year old friends will point an laugh at you? Well get over that too, it is just what kids do. Grow up and stop complaining about stupid stuff. Focus more on the major things that are going on in the world, like poverty, and war.
I think your problem goes beyond the color of your home...
How about your dad and you sit down with mum and say that although the colour is very pretty but perhaps for the outside of the house it isn't as good a choice as she usually would've picked. Suggest another colour but then suggest you'd like the yellow colour in a room that your mum DOES get to see often. Yellow is a very cheering happy colour perhaps that's all your mum is attempting to make you all. Take care and please don't be too hard on her. :-)
interesting in colour therapy yellow is the best colour for recovery from mental illness ..... you sound like you too are suffering from some personality disorder .. unless of course your just 15 and going through the *wateva stage live your life for yourself or support your mother dont let your need for approval tie your soul down
You shouldn't be so hard on your mum- especially if she has suffered with mental illness. Yellow is such a lovely colour and if your mum has decided to paint her house this colour then you shouldn't be so negative towards it. Okay you have problems with your self esteem, but you should not let people's comments affect you.
sounds like this is just the tip of the iceberg for you and you have some deep mental health issues yourself, dont meen that horribly i just think maybe your using this as an excuse to feel down.
i personally dont see the problem and if i walked past a yellow house i wouldnt be bothered by it id just think it was cool and original.
I dont really know what the question here is but what i will say is if you and your dad disagree with the colour, change it!
You said she doesnt go out and so therfore cannot see the outside of the house so paint it back to white or atleast get someone to do it for you.
If that is no help then the only other suggestion i have for you is to talk to her and try to make her change her mind.
I never used to be able to go out on my own, i always had to have someone with me, im 19 now and sometimes still do. Not because im embaressed though, there is always lads hanging around my local shop and they whistle and say things and i feel intimmedated, it is hard to overcome, but if you start doing it, just step out of the front door the first time then go back in, you will eventually get there!
Hi. I appreciate your embarrassment but parents enjoy being embarrassing that's what you've got to understand.
I can guarantee that in approximately 5 years time you will be asked in a circle in a party what is "your most embarrassing moment?" and when it comes to your turn you will be sooo glad your mum painted your house yellow when someones bound to tell about the time they tucked their knickers into their skirt. Oh yes you'll be proud. x
I'll be up front about this. The color of the house is NOT the problem. I think you have deeper issues surfacing here.
I suggest you seek out a counselor you can talk to about this to find out what's REALLY at the root of your discomfort...because I guarantee the color is NOT the problem...
A counselor (psychologist) will help you learn more about yourself and why this particular situation has you so up in arms...gaining understanding of what's driving the way we feel is the first step in dealing with it!
Good luck
a few years ago there was a short terrace of houses on the hillside just north of pontypridd (south wales) where the first house was pillarbox red, the next lime green, banana yellow, puce, magenta ....
there are lots of streets like this in south wales. the welsh are colourful people. and we don't care what anybody else thinks of us.
perhaps your mother is welsh.
things could be much worse.
at least you're not.
i feel sorry for u sis but look on the bright side ur lucky she didn't paint it pink with white polka dots its only a house She will snap out of it soon and change the colour
Sorry but agree. The problem is yours and your mums problem is in part you.
Try and get some more help please.
Good luck
if you think that a bright yellow door is bad,
go to burano, one of the islands off venice.
the houses there are painted in clashing, vibrant colours. yellow, bright blue, purple, venetian red.
tourists love the place.
open your house to the public at weekends, earn some pocket money!
well sounds daft but bright colours do work when depressed like wearing them on doing the out side you could have word with her tell her its getting every1 looking and driving you mad plus you mates don't like it even if they do cry be upset it should get her to do something good luck
Tell a doctor or social worker that your mum and the house are driving you insane and they'll probably help you get a council flat.
Or get people to help u raise the deposit, and get your own rented flat:)
You resent your mother feeling buoyed up by living in a house painted yellow: why should you take this to your person? You doubt here sincerity because she would seldom see it herself, but that is not the point -- people use make-up and hair preparations that affects how they look -- not how they see|! Allow yours mother this small indulgence.
You say you feel humiliated about the colour -- but you should instead rejoice for several reasons:
1. mother is blessed by it
2,. it is a happy, positive colour
3. you have now a distinctive house
You should learn to rejoice in having a distinctive house: it speaks of originality and confidence: why should you want to be one with the crowd?
You criticise your mother for her self-centredness, but that is what you insist for yourself! You have a golden opportunity here: capitalise on your mother's eccentricity and enjoy the diversity of life this situation brings. Nobody is laughing at YOU over the yellow housepaint: if others enjoy the sight, why can't you?
yellows not so bad it could have been baby pink.
if thats all you have to worry about in life god help you!
It appears rather interesting to see how outside influences have an effect on your self confidence..or self esteem..If that is where you are looking for help in gaining self esteem, you are looking in the wrong places.
Self esteem is something created and formed within ones inner being. It does not depend on outer influences to make it work. It is the confidence you feel inside that gives you the courage to be all you can be. You then allow other telents or gifts to become your focal point and make them work for you.
if i lived in nw uk i would probably be doing the same, its so dull
looking, dark at 3pm , i would appreciate it , the uk is so conservative , travel round the world and go b ack to nw uk
and you will see how grey england is.
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