adviced needed on depressed spouse please!?

Question:

been together 25 years and has always had highs and lows but in recent years they've increased to a crisis point.

Answers:
Hi there,
Its difficult to tell without hearing more about the nature of the highs and lows. How to deal with the depression depends on what level this depression is (manic depressive, or less intense).
If possible, I suggest you take your spouse to the doctor. He/she may not want to go (quite common among manic depressives - if it is that level), apply gentle pressure but do not force the person or get angry.

The best thing you can do is support the person. Listen to what they have to say supportively, even though so of it may seem stupid or childish to you, and make yourself available to hearing what they have to say. But equally dont let it take over your own life (as it often can). Medical advice is usually helpful and i strongly advise. If you cannot get your spouse to see a doctor, you could go to this site;

http://www.supportline.org.uk/problems/depression.php

If you call one of the numbers at the bottom of the page they should be able to point you in the direction of someone who can give you advice on how to deal with your spouse and help them.

If you do see a doctor, take their advice but i STRONGLY advise you seek cognitive help rather then drugs. Many of the drugs offered for depression (and dolled out far too regularly by the NHS doctors) treat the effects of the depression rather then the causes. I was on drugs for my depression myself, and they simply cut out my thought processes, so I was very high or very low, with none of the worrying in between. I would suggest a councillor or step by step plan rather the resorting to drugs at first.

Hope that helps.

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