How can I find self of steam back,stop cutting,being bulimic,and not being able to overcome rape?
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It's hard to over come rape, and I really know where your coming from. You never really completely get over it. Just keep yourself happy. Go for a walk. Watch a good movie. Draw a picture. Have a bubble bath, just little stuff. Have you seen a guy since the rape? Email me at Cedez92@yahoo.com. Just be happy. And it helps to talk someone that understands. And pretty much,the only way they'll understand is if they have gone trough something like it. And however you choose to talk make sure they are pretty much over the trauma, cuz if they're not then they'll just mess you up. Email me.
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You need professional help, as, although all these problems are related, need to be dealt with by someone who can genuinely help
If you ever need to talk email me at bullethead_5150@yahoo.com .
Get therapy or join a self-help group. Seriously. Given all these things, you need help to heal. People on this board can't do it, either.
You are not the only person in this situation. There are people who understand and know how to overcome these problems.
(BTW, I believe you mean "self-esteem" not "self of steam").
You can go to my support group site of support http://www.geocities.com/helpprob
You feel lost, and you'll find your way once you face these problems and put them behind you finally. Therapy can be a wonderful experience you'll learn so much about yourself just by talking to someone, an expert who has dealt with other people who've had the same problems as you and overcame them so a therapist can guide you to recovering and becoming a better person. You deserve to be happy and live a fulfilling life you're just like any other human being, so why not?
Hmm..Kinda reminds me of myself...I was raped...5ish years ago && it went on everynight for 1-2 years...He is now in prison but afterwards i got sooo depressed && cut and did alot of stupid stuff...I never was bulimic but i would stop eating for a few days just to punish myself i guess....But the main thing for me wasn't settin a good example for my lil sis. And she is my life! I love that kid!! I ended up moving && making good friends and I still talk to a few of my friends from my old school...&& whenever i get sad i talk to my friends or my mom about things...That always helps for me cause they are always there for me..But i Just became happier everyday that i hung out w/ my friends && i would look in the mirror and tell myself i was beautiful and it works...I am a happy person now for the most part...There are days where i just wanna hide under my bed && just die. And there are days where i wanna kill someone cause i have anger issues...But i think of my lil sis, My mom, && My friends..Hope this help! Stephanie
P.S. All these ppl are suggesting therapy..I was forced to for a year or they would take me away from my mom cause they thought she wasn't providing for us after my stepdad went to jail(she was) but i HATED therapy...&& was a total rebel and went to sleep when i went there haha...but I guess it can help..But the most important thing i learned from it is keeep a diary because it really really helps...&& write letters to ppl...esp if your mad at them..You don't even ahve to send em...after writing it you feel ALOT better..&& don't even care if they read it.. && its fun to look back at ur diary && see what u were doing a year from today or w/e. Hope it helped!Stephanie
Do not be afraid to ask someone you trust for help. If you're a minor, ask an adult you trust. A friend of the family, a person at your church. A parent, guardian, or other family member. Anyone that you think might help you, let them know.
Self esteem returns with time. It's hard to immediately get it back in one day. You have to work at it, and you need to be comfortable in your own skin. With the other problems you posted, it's no wonder you have low self-esteem, and I hope you are able to overcome it. Bulimia is a real disorder, and it's hard to overcome - but if you want to bad enough, you can. Cutting is just another form of hurting yourself, much like bulimia is, and I know how hard it is for you to go through that, I do. But it's okay to ask for help. You really obviously want to get better, and that's great! But the first step is getting help.
You need some cleansing. I can guide you through the process. Take a blank note book and start writing down all your yucky feelings and burn it out of your life. Let the past be gone or it will hunt your future. I know it s not easy but you don't want to trash your future. Life is a *****.. sorry to hear you go through this. Be strong. write me and I'll help you aisha007h@yahoo.com i have some Ideas and it will get you better. o.k.
I am sorry to hear about your experience. I hope the following will help. My wife was raped long ago. even though she does not like to take about it ,I know it comes to her mind. Did the person go to jail?There is some relief in knowing that it is his turn to know what it is like.
Anyway; you need to continue on with your life,go to confidential(positive!) meetings. It took awhile before my wife got threw it . other women have as well,perhaps it may be good to speak to one who has in some respects recovering through the trauma of a bad experience. Post traumatic stress syndrome come into play here. Do speak to a female doctor not a male she will help as well if you are having a really difficult time. Hope this helps.
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