What can you do to relieve anxiety and haunting thoughts?
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I suffer from post traumatic stress disorder,depression,and I used to have panic attacks so bad my husband would have to take me to the E.R.I started going to a "shrink" and that has helped so much.I'll share with you how he helped me get over the panic attacks,and helped with the p.t.s.d.Of course getting on the proper meds helps,but I was still having the panic attacks,so this is what he told me.First,your mind cannot completely focus on 2 things at once.You can have "racing" thoughts.But one thought has to leave before you can focus on another.If there is something you are dwelling on,and just simply can't get rid of it,try these things.The one that really works for me is to get an ice cube and hold in your hand.Your mind will have to stop thinking about the bad,as you focus on how the ice feels in your hand.Another one,is to put a rubber band around your wrist,when the thoughts start,snap it as many times as it takes to get your mind on something else.Another,and this one is great,take a shower with the water as hot or as cold as you can stand,and turn it to where the water is hitting your body as hard as you can stand,for as long as you can stand it.I like the hot water,and after you stay in there for at least 15 to 20 min.Go lie down on nice fresh clean sheets.Just keep thinking how the water felt on your body,and focus on your breathing,if your mind starts wandering,bring it back to your breathing.Inhale deeply and slowly through your nose,and exhale slowly through your mouth.You should be sleeping like a baby in no time.A very important thing to do,is write down these thoughts you have,and after you feel you can't write anymore,read what you wrote.Are any of the things you wrote,in your power to change?If you're worring about things you can't change.Then you need to change your thinking.If you are around people telling you how to feel or think.Tell them to back off! You are entitled to feel and think the way you want,and no one has the power to take that away from you,unless you let them.As for the panic attacks,my Doc told me they come from feeling like you have no control over something.What has worked for me is to identify what happened just before I started feeling anxious.If it's something someone said to you,then you need to confront the situation RIGHT THEN.Sometimes we take things differently than what it was meant.Ask the person how they meant it when they said it.If you took it wrong,then you know you can let it go because they didn't mean it in the context in which you took it.If they did mean it and it hurt your feelings or made you mad,tell them.And don't allow them to tell you're wrong for your feelings.If it's a person that always makes you nervous,then get them out of your life,until and unless they start to respect you and your feelings.It doesn't matter if it's a family member or spouse.You are entitled to be treated the way you want,and if others don't agree,then eleminate them till they do.You need to take care of yourself,and get your needs met.That does not mean you are being selfish.And don't let anyone tell you different.You have more power within you,than you realize.Once you do realize that, you will be suprised at how different people will treat you.I'm almost 50,and I was still allowing people to tell me how I should feel.Like alot of people,I had an abusive childhood,then got into abusive relationships.I was told I was worthless and believed it.I'd finally had enough and found this great Doctor.This past year has been full of revelations,and for the first time,I speak up for myself.I take care of myself,and only go around people that I feel good around.If I'm some place I don't like,I leave.These are common sense things that alot of people grow up with.But then there's others with low self-esteem,and we need to learn to stand up for ourselfs,and get the users and abusers out of our life.Also a good relationship with God,and prayer are very important.Take care,and God bless.If you want,you may e-mail me.
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