10 year old son hurts peoples feelings, is rude, and shows signs of violent behavior?

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my son treats people VERY BADLY if he doesn't get his way. his father and i are divorced and our views are different on how to handle this. i make the child apologize for insults and rudeness. i make the child be held accountable for his actions when he hurts people. i will NOT cover up his bad behavior (he drew a picture of his class mates being shot by him and his friends) and i turned this picture over to the court begging to be allowed to send him to counseling. my ex tells me AND THE COURT that i over react and that i am to hard on the child. because my ex would not agree to the counseling, our son can't go. the court said to limit his violent television and t.v. games as a solution. WHERE CAN I TURN BEFORE IT'S TO LATE? the child is happy as can be one second, but as SOON as he's not controling a situation he turns into a completely different person. I'M AFRAID of what he is capable of.BUT, without my ex-husbands consent i'm powerless to help this child.

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If he has problems in school because of his behavior.I believe a school councilor can talk to child w/out permission because my son is ADHD and school councilor talked to him w/out permission..as far as your ex goes..He is BLIND if he doesn't see a problem..unless your ex acts like him.I would ask family DR what to do.or get a good lawyer.that's scary of him drawing those terrible pictures.look at all the school killings.Show the picture to the school..they should be able to do something about it.like, again, a school councilor GOOD LUCK!!

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why do you need your ex husband's permission to take him to counseling?? that child needs counseling before he hurts somebody, or himself. it sounds like he would benefit from medication, also. what mental illnesses run in your family, or in your exes? is there a court order that says you cannot take him to counseling? what does your attorney say? is the court stopping YOU from getting counseling to help you better deal with this child? you and the child both need to speak to a mental health professional and to a good attorney, before it is too late. a lot of serial killers (and i'm not saying your son will become one) start out with this kind of behavior. it then escalates into harming small animals and then onto people. i am also divorced with an 11 year old son in counseling. believe me, there are ways around the court system. WHERE THERE IS A WILL, THERE IS A WAY!! good luck because you need it.

How was you and your husband's relationship? Was your husband ever violent towards you? Did you argue a lot? There has to be a reason why he's like this. If you can figure out what might have caused him to be like this, then you might be able to fix it. Talk to your son. Ask him why he's so mad, and why he likes hurting people's feelings. Then let him know why it's wrong. Ask how he would feel if someone did the same thing to him. Let him know how his behavior is going to affect his relationships when he gets older. You need to be there for him during these hard times. Listen to him. If you show him lots of love, he'll show others love. It's not too late. He's still young. Just don't think that bringing him to a counselor will help. It won't. Don't yell at him when he does something wrong. Ask him why he did it. My parents would always yell at me.. and it made me mad when they didn't listen to my side. They never tried to understand. That made me even more upset. You're the only one who can help him. Good luck.
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I practically raised myself.

I would definitely petition the courts again and take as much documentation of your sons behavior as you can get ahold of. Teachers and other people that are around your son will help you by making verbal and written statements on things they can attest to.

If things start going your ex-husbands way in court I would just simply throw up my hands and ask the judge/mediator if they remember Columbine? What is this world coming to?

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