How can I love myself?
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focus on the positive and work harder on your self-esteem. go to a counselor if necessary
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I feel the same way! If you find out anything let me know!!
don't be miserable, everyone is beautiful in there own way, and it's not what's on the outside that matters it is what's on the inside, so don't worry, be happy
Why the hell do you think you should love what you see in the mirror? You should love yourself. A personality. Your personality has nothing to do with your appearance, except for when you're looking in the mirror too much and become obsessed with your looks.
PS: btw, when you're ok with yourself it is much easier to lose weight ;)
All you need to worry about is what God thinks of and he sees everyone the same-beautiful and unique. Don't put yourself down all the time. Maybe you should start listening to those people and say to yourself 'I AM attractive, damn it!'
Learn to be comfortable with who you are. People love you for a reason. Masterbate often and learn to love your body. This will help you have a better outlook on your self worth and mind set.
send me a photograph of you.. i will tell you whether or not you are pretty..
if you are i will just say it and tell you to suck it up and shut up..
and if you're not pretty, i'll tell you what you need to do in order for you to look good.
Start by reading a book called "The Road Less Travelled" by M. Scott Peck. He defines love in a simple way (ie. the action of helping a person grow) and in such a convincing way that you'll know how to turn his thoughts into actions. One hint: do things for yourself that make you feel good about yourself.
I used to be the same way, until I realized that that kind of thinking is really self-centeredness disquised as self-loathing. It's egoic programming out of control. Your true self would never tell you that; it's your false self, the egocentric self, that is full of sh@%. You have to say NO to it to make it stop. I suggest doing something totally selfless in order to counteract the self-centeredness. Start thinking of ways to help others or just make others smile. Practice random acts of kindness. Change your self-image by getting out there and doing something good for the world, for your friends and family and community. Maybe you're already doing this, but the main thing is to realize that being obssessed with your appearance is a form of egocentricity. It's not coming from your loving self, it's coming from your dysfunctioning, suffering self. Choose to give power only to your loving self. By doing this, your inner beauty will shine through and everything that is 'wrong' about you will fall into the background. Then you'll be able to see yourself as others do. This is what I did, and it worked!!
Blessings
I just finished responding to your last post when I saw this one. Please read my other response.
Let me add this: If you are going to spend the day sitting on your computer telling the world how unhappy you are, you are not going to get any more happy. You're going to feed your misery by having all these strangers tell you how they feel sorry for you and that you should cheer up. That isn't helping. Yes, it's giving you the attention you are lacking in your marital situation, but it is not addressing the underlying problem.
Shut off the computer, put on your tennis shoes and go walk around the block a few times. If you are feeling fat, the best way to stop feeling that way is to do something about it. You aren't burning any calories parked in front of your computer screen. If you are feeling unattractive, once you come home from your walk, put on a nice shirt and a pair of jeans (never get into your car wearing sweatpants - they show everyone that you see - including you, when you see your reflection, that you don't have any respect for yourself, and that is not attractive) and trot yourself over to the local department store. The Perfume Nazis will be more than happy to give you a makeover. Pay attention to what they are doing and recreate the look at home. You don't have to buy their really expensive stuff. Just follow their techniques with the products you already have at home.
You need to feel good about you!God doesn't create UGLY people , just UGLY definitions. Everyone on this earth is worth a life and happiness. We all go to the same place in the end.
Everyone has their good qualities, including you. Grab a pen and piece of paper and write them down. Write down things you are good at. Maybe you don't think you have any of these things, but trust me, you do. Just think long and hard about it. When you come up with some things, make it your goal to practice those things habitually, so they become the things you're known for. Keeping up with the good things about you will make you feel better about yourself. I'm not going to tell you some catch phrase like, beauty is only skin deep or something like that. But you can't be focused on what you look like all the time. There are much more important things in life than what everyone looks like. And may I say that you obviously love yourself enough to come here and ask people how to love yourself more. That shows you care about yourself a little bit. Maybe you're in denial about how great you actually are. You just have to find yourself and what makes you tick. Spend a little time getting to know yourself, because I'm sure that you'll love yourself more for it in the end. I haven't seen a picture of you, but I can tell already you are definitely beatiful on the inside for respecting yourself enough to try and get some help. If you need more help, try seeking a professional. If it's too expensive, check out what kind of mental health resources are available from your county. I think almost all counties have something that gets based on a sliding rate according to your income. I hope I could help some sweetie. I hope you feel better.
I used to feel the same way until I found Jesus. I found that I could love myself because of the love that He showed me. That love flows through me and enables me to love myself, flaws and all. It I just looked at myself without having a greater ability to love than what I have then I would be a miserable person. I don't have that problem now. I didn't believe that this Christianity stuff really worked but I was proved wrong. Not by other Christians but by Jesus.
Sometimes genetics is working so hard against us that it makes it nearly impossible to tilt the tide in favor of progress and weight loss. You need to decide what it is in life that is really going to make you happy and make a plan.today. Like they say in every Adam Sandler movie, "You too can do it!"
WE ARE ALL BEAUTIFUL IN OUR OWN LITTLE WAY,BE YOURSELF AND THAT IS THE THE REAL BEAUTY IN YOU! JUST BE CLEAN AND NEAT! I AM PRETTY SURE YOUR FRIENDS ARE HONEST AND THEY LIKE YOU THE WAY YOU ARE!
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