What can I do for him?

Question:

My boyfriend of five years just lost his closest aunt- she was 37 w/ 3 kids. he is so upset and depressed about it that all he does is go out & drink. He's acting wierd around me and seems like he's pulling away, but I know he loves me. He's agitated and irritable. I love him and I'll always be there for him, but I wish he would just go back to his old self. I know it sounds selfish, but I miss him..what do I do?

Answers:
you are doing all you can by being there. losing someone is hard but death is part of life. If he wants to talk listen, if he wants to be quiet be quiet. The grieving process takes awhile but it is something only he can do. Perhaps suggest that you both do something with the kids, getting ice cream, playing ball whatever but makes certain that you do not demand he snap out of it

maybe you could do something to help him remember her - a photo album of her for instance. Try to get him talking about the good times and realise that they should be treasured, not mourned.

What can I do for him?

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