Advice Please?

Question: I am emotionally abused by my parents. They scream at me and put me down with insults. I can never live up to what they want me to be. I get straight A's in AP and Honors classes and I play on club sports teams, but it is never enough. They always tell me its not enough and I need to do better, but I don't know what is better. They also blame me for problems around the house, for example, my dad is a little OCD with cleaning, but my mom keeps the house messy, so my dad blames me for the mess around the house, even though I hardly ever "hang-out" downstairs and I never keep anything down there. Somehow its my fault for their mess, everything is my fault, even though I'm not involved in it. I'm tired of it and it is making me severely depressed. I've tried to confront them a couple times, but they deny it. For example, I asked my Dad to stop yelling and screaming at me and that it wasn't my fault but he would yell I'm not yelling at you! Anyone have advice on how to deal with i

Answers:
Oh my dear can I relate to you! It sounds like my family! Do you have any sisters or brothers to talk to or any other close family member to talk to? Or do you have any close friends you could talk to? Talking to people outside of your parents can help you to release your tensions and anger that you may harbor inside of you.

Do you go to church? You could seek out your pastors or priests advice on this matter too.

Is there a guidance counselor in your school or some kind of counselor you could talk to about your situations at home and how their comments and reactions hurt you?

You really need to talk to someone fast. I do want to applaud you though for all your hard work and accomplishments you are making in school! That is great!! The key to your own sanity is this: Don't worry if you are not pleasing your parents so much, worry about pleasing yourself. Parents that generally didn't do well in school themselves tend to be over critical of their children that are still in school. Acknowledge the fact for your own self that you are doing the best you can. Perhaps in time your parents will learn to accept you for you. You can't change how they think about you but you can change how you think about yourself. Be happy with yourself and learn to overlook your parents' opinions about you. Good luck and I hope you the best for your bright future ahead!

Other Answers:
Talk to your parents about going to family counselling.

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It would be good to have a professional counselor you could talk to. Perhaps your school guidance counselor could suggest someone If you are taking AP's then you're off to college soon. So don't stress about it. Just don't come to visit them often and when they give you advice just say "Ok, sure." but do whatever you think is right. Afterall what can they do if you are in a different city or state.

Check out (http://www.reducingstress.net ) there is a lot of great content, information articles, expert advice and links on the subject there.

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