What causes my face to turn red and I feel all nervous around some people, it's ok when I'm the one talking..


Question:
when I'm listening to them it's hell to concentrate on what's being said when I know my face is red. How can I make this stop?

Answers:
It's possible you're really sensitive to input, and the fact that someone's talking to you (and maybe won't shut up...I don't know the situation perfectly) is causing you to go into overload. Chances are you are 'introverted'...which is a questionable term that basically means your energy is gained through social rest and silence, not social interaction. You don't have a problem talking to others (introversion is NOT shyness) because you can speak at your own pace, and are much more comfortable with the inner workings of your mind than what is going on around you.
I don't know if this is you...but I know I have this particular problem. Sometimes I get around people who talk so much that I want to scream...occasionally because I feel I can't get a word in edgewise and I can't concentrate on what they're saying because I'm so busy waiting for when my turn will come...(next month).

Making it stop? Well..if I actually pinpointed what your problem is...I may be able to help. If not...I have no clue. I know this could be construed as rude to do to people, but if you're discreet about it, it works. If you start feeling yourself go crazy when someone's talking to you again, just try to disconnect yourself for a minute. Don't worry about what they're saying...just detach. It may only last five seconds, but it can cool you down enough to continue listening to what they have to say. If this method has no effect on you, I would suggest you do two things
1) If you know the person well enough, ask them to slow down and tell them you need time processing all they're saying. Are they a fast talker? Very expressive? Some people find others like that very stressful. Just try to explain to them how their energy is making you feel.
2) I would also see a therapist about this if it is bothering you too much. I could be wrong about what I said...you might have some form of social anxiety or phobia. The sky's the limit with anxiety...and unless you get to the bottom of things you may have no idea where it comes from. Your reaction to others talking could be intense fear or frustration....two very serious emotions. I wouldn't overlook this option if things don't improve...or even get worse.

Wish you luck dear. I'm trying to get in therapy right now for a bunch of issues, including exactly what you're talking about.
blood is rushing to your head, take slow deep breaths


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