bad conversationalist?

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a have a very serious problem.it haunts me u know.actually i think im such a bad conversationalist..i can"t express my feelings towards something.like i want to say or tell stories and tell my feelings especially to my friends but i ended up can"t say it.u see,i think im not a good enough person to talk to,i ca't crack jokes,im not a fun person,can't tell stories.a conversation to me is the ability of one another to express what they want to say but...i cant express it!my friends start not to respect me cuz i seldom talk.i dont have anything to talk.yeah,thats what i mean.i cant keep the conversation on..i really dont get it.i try to do everything to be a good conversationalist,but it didnt work!i think the reason for my prolem is because when i was a child,like when i was 13 n untill now,18,i dont hang out with peer groups.i keep studying every second.i treid to tell this prob to my mom,my friends but it didnt seem to work.they dont understand cuz they are not me.pliz help me....

Answers:
Have you considered the possibility that you and your friends are merely growing apart? They may have topics of conversation that you really don't share. They may be making statements that you feel are quite different from your feelings, and feel that if you were to enter into the conversation you would be thought of as not cool, or even judgmental. It happens often as we get older. A young teen may talk of this guy or that girl, but as the later teens approach, they find this immature and topics change. That's just one example, there are thousands more.
I am concerned about your feelings of unworthiness. Sometimes silence is used as a method of withdrawal in depression. I would talk to a Dr. about this possibility. In the meantime just look in the mirror, you have to live with you, not anyone else. Changing yourself to meet others expectations is a good way to destroy yourself. If you like you, the rest doesn't much matter.
You may want to change some of your activities. Instead of hanging with old friends, take up activities that pertain to your interests. You may find you are a brilliant conversationalist, you simply needed to find someone else that could discuss subjects that are of mutual interest.

no, why is this haunting you? go easy on yourself. do your best to tell stories and to express your feelings and that is all you can do. you will get better at conversations. you have a great mind! for five years you have been studying. tell people what you know!

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