I've never been more depressed in my life. Can someone please help? I am very stressed?

Question:

I'm not sure where to start..My wife and I have not been getting along the past couple of years. I'm not going to try and explain everything in detail but i believe my wife has (Borderline Personality Disorder). She is very selfish, hateful. vindictive and anything else along these lines! I've researched and bought books on this subject. We have two children .my son is 12 and my daughter is 8. Both are active in sports and after school activities. I am the only one trying to make ends meet financially. In the last year and a half my wife has (maybee) given me 4 to 5 hundred dollars to help with bills. I filed for divorce at the end of last year but reconciled with her (what a big mistake)I thought things could change(and it was for a couple of months), boy was i wrong! I've just recently went into foreclosure with my morgage. I had to buy a newer vehicle because the one i was driving took a dump. That was Repo'd last night in the middle of the night. I'm at a loss PLEASE HELP!

Answers:
If you think your wife has bpd and she refuses to get diagnosed or help, it might be time for you to follow through on the divorce this time around. She is not helping your current situation and is dragging you down further.

I would also explain the financial situation to the kids and let them know that "frills" are no longer feasible.that money needs to go strictly for what is really needed. Usually, if kids know the situation, they are more understanding of being denied money for every little thing. If you plan to get custody of the kids, plan a budget then sit down and show them where all the money is going. When they can picture it in black and white, they will understand it more.

Good luck! I hope you finally find some peace from worry, from money issues and from your marriage.

P.S. If your company offers free counseling, you might want to make an appointment just to have a way to help with the stress. Just talking to someone neutral can really help!

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I have been in a similar situation. partner with what i thought was borderline disorder. ran me into debt, spent all my money and did not work. I had to legally divorce him to preserve my credit rating. You are past that. you have let it go too far already. save yourself now. she's a brick and you're drowning slowly. you must put your own oxygen mask on before you can help others.

take a break from what ur doing, go for a walk on a Sat. morning with ur wife and explain the situation. the wife also has an obligation in the family. try talking to the kids too, and tell them what is happening, and ask if they could make a few sacrifices, and give it back to them when u have financialy stabilized. i think that should work
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me, and my brain.although i'm only 12, i think this should work, because my dad has tried it before

Sounds like all you need is a large insurance policy on your wife and her to meet an untimely demise and all your problems would be fixed

I really feel for you. I think my brother's ex wife has Boderline and she was a nightmare. The same thing happened with him, she would do something horrific and unthinkable and they would reconcile. She had left him with major medical bills and he was left to pay for a car she wrecked in a drunk driving accident ( she let the insurance lapse and my dad was a cosigner so my brother has to pay).

What I have notice with my brother is that things have gotten better since his whole situation hit rock bottom. Time has moved on, he has realized that he was in a toxic relationship, and now concentrates on himself and his kids. You will have to have a relationship with your ex/wife for the sake of your children. Keep it friendly, keep it professional and don't feed into her mental illness. As far as you, this is going to hurt, but give it time. Things will get better!

What you need to do is find a relationship with Jesus Christ. I have gone through very similar circumstances. My wife has run up charge cards, written over $ 10,000 in checks to cash, gotten a divorce .etc. I was married for 30 years. The pain I have gone through has been severe. However, having a relationship with Jesus as my savior has helped tremendously. I have begun to rebuild my life with His help. What you must do is ask Him into your heart, and through faith He will come, forgive you of your sins, and be your hope of eternal life. I would suggest reading John Chapter 3. Then you must find a Bible believing church to help you in your relationship with God.`
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The Word of God, The Bible

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