Do people w/ erotic fantasies of control necessarily have 2 go through something traumatizing as a child?
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Who knows why any of our sexual quirks get developed?
Some people will tell you that it has to do with previous sexual abuse – but that is definitely not my experience, and I bet it is not yours either.
What it means is that like a LOT of women, you like rough sex - if a bit rougher than some. Personally I feel exactly the way you do, and I know other girls who do as well, so you are definitely not alone.
I think that one of the reasons some girls (like us) like rough sex is that it is a feeling of being out of control, and a feeling of being under the mans control. I think there are two reasons why we crave that: first – in modern society men almost never control girls anymore, and yet we still have that desire. Secondly – in modern society, we are still expected to be pure and innocent – and so being out of control and being “taken” by a man provides us with an excuse – if only for others – for enjoying sex, we aren’t the dirty whores who like sex – we are the pure innocent girls who think sex is icky, but he MADE us have sex.
Besides, it is naughty – and everyone knows that naughty is more fun. Just wait till you get with a guy who pulls hair!
You need to make sure that you tell your boyfriends what you like, and that you tell them that out of the bedroom that sort of behavior is NOT acceptable. It is also wise to tell them what sorts of names are off limits. I know there is one name that turns me cold in an instant, but if I tell a guy to call me names, and don’t warn him about the one, I hear it eventually and have no one to blame but myself.
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not at all it just comes with the imagination
no they don't. i have fantasies like that i nothing happen to me no
Very simply, no. Alot of people have fantasies of control.some more than others. Some like to be dominated and some like to dominate. As long as your partner is okay with what you want, have fun!
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