How do you forgive someone?


Question:
Someone who has done you wrong that effected your entire life. How do you forgive that person? is it possible to do so with out giving in to that persons intentions?

Answers:
Here's a tip: Think about that person who has done you wrong and is still hurting you, and ask yourself "Does this person ever think about what he/she did to me?" In almost all cases, when we don't forgive we are continuing to give power to these people who hurt us, even though those people don't even think about us 99% of the time or better. It's not what life throws at us that defines who and what we are; it's how we deal with the things life throws at us that defines who and what we are. See, it's up to YOU to decide whether you're going to let whatever this person did ruin the rest of your life. If you don't want this to poison you forever, just keep telling yourself "I'm not going to let this person hurt me anymore." Whoever hurt you is an imperfect human being and did something very stupid/cruel/heartless/childis... take your pick. I'm not trying to minimize or invalidate your pain, but what happened is in the past and you can leave it in the past if you want to. Continuing to hold a grudge only hurts YOU, and if you hold onto it you'll invariably turn into a very bitter person. Do you really want your anger toward this @$$hole to consume your soul and suck all the joy out of your life right up to the day you die? Put this behind you and let it go for YOU, not for the person who wronged you.
Oh gosh, I've been in this situation many times. You just have to ask God to give you peace about the situation, and the the person regardless of what they've done...That doesn't mean you have to like their ways, but the Bible says that we're to love everyone. God Bless!


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