Straight Bi Curious Help!?
Question:
Im 25 Male and ive been out with a few girls where ive tended to get bored in the relationship for certain reasons and according to my friends these have been great girls lately i seem to be not very attracted to anyone and when my mate points out good looking girls in the street i dont feel anything like i used to be like! Ive been wondering why im not finding many girls attractive im a laid back lad gays dont bother me but i have been wondering what it would be like and a good as* is good to look at male or female but when it would actually come to being with a man i couldnt do that! But its as if my brains talking me into thinking im Gay! Im seeing a councilor as im an angry guy from time to time as it frustrates me why i just cant fall in love or i get bored! Its as if when i girl starts liking me i push them away! And a girl i met lately thought i was gay because i was so laid back about gays and it made me start questioning my own sexuality! Am i being over the top here?
Answers:
First take a deep breath. Now repeat after me."Just because I'm not a jackass about homosexuals does not make me gay". I belive you are putting way to much pressure on yourself. You could have issues with women from your childhood or something or you could just not have met the right woman. As to your question I don't put people in boxes, you don't have to be gay, bi, or straight. I'd say more but this is an open disscusion, so if you want to talk just e-mail me.
PS Ignore the gay bashing that will probaly be in some of the answers.
Other Answers:
People are constantly changing. I've been in a similar situation.. you just need to decide if you are willing to explore this further.
Yup - you are being over teh top. But only a bit
No doupt you councelor has already told youthat - whatever your sexual prefrence or proclivity, the only way you will ever find peace with yourself is to learn to be comfortable with it.
You are overanalyzing this. It sounds like you are very comfortable in your sexuality, but your girlfriend isn't. Could you not ever see yourself with a man? You have to make that call yourself. If you are bi, then it will all fall into place. I think you're the only one who can answer that question accurately. Sit down, shut your eyes for a minute and breathe deeply. Think of women, think of men, (in that way). Which gender does it more for you? If it's guys, you're leaning towards gay. If it's girls, then straight. If both, you're bi.
Don't let anyone tell you what your sexuality is. It's yours to enjoy. As someone who is gay and didn't figure it out until I was in my 20's, trust me - whatever you turn out to be, you'll be happy you faced it head-on.
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