How do I get over being shy and become more confident?
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Realize that people are actually friendly. I used to be shy, especially around girls, but I went to this event and all the people were really friendly even though i'd never seen some of them before. They invited me to hangout right the first day i met them. If you believe you're confident, people will think you know what you're doing. It's worse to be nervous, then make a stupid gesture and fuss about it than to be confident and joke about making mistakes. You have more to lose by being shy and hiding yourself. People like outgoing people, not people who are quiet and shy. Have you watched Coach Carter?
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate
our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond belief.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us
We ask ourselves, who am i to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."
Good Luck
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Start small, and work your way up.
Begin by just saying hello to strangers every day. I do it all the time at work (I have to, but still) and I'm no longer very shy
I think that confidence is something that comes from within. The first step is self acceptance. You need to be ok with yourself and that will make you available for others to be ok with you also. And by self acceptance I dont mean to change yourself to fit a specific image. True self acceptance is loving yourself just the way you are, even with your flaws. After you learn to be ok with youself, think about how you would like to exude confidence. Dressing better? A more confident walk? Then attack each of these things individually. Take smalls steps and dont punish yourself for any backslides.
Dear BL,
You've certainly brought your mental health concerns to the right place. The Y!A community members are fully aware of and do appreciate the intimate conditions involving your prognosis. Most recognized doctors in the field of medicine would employ a holistic approach to your ailment.
BL, please begin your day with a well balanced breakfast to include an ample portion of fruits and grains. After your morning routines are finished, enjoy a brisk walk around the block. If you happen to meet any stray dogs along the way, it would be a good idea to antagonize the creatures in order to add some vigor to your workout.
Now BL, the remaining portions of your day should be filled with interesting activities and new studies to keep your mind active and in balance, complimentary to what you have done with the physical side of yourself.
After loitering around at the public library all afternoon with a bunch of smelly hobos, you can appreciate a warm bath and time to be good to yourself. Begin to collect an archive of various music genres that you can resolve one day to enjoy after you get the rest of your chores done.
BL, if after following my advice, simply take two aspirin and forget we ever had this little discussion.
Thank you, BL. Have a great day!
Dr.Garrett
My son was like that until he got out there and started talking to ppl. Comment on people's clothing, how they look etc.
Try using some of the strategies listed below:
1. Learn some ways to relax and incorporate them into your daily routine. When you feel relaxed you feel more confident about meeting people.
2. Identify things that are pleasant for you and plan them into your schedule. Find hobby (s) and get involved with groups that participate in those hobbies. The more you know about a particular thing the less shy you will be.
3. Increase your activity level. To break this cycle, schedule daily exercise (activity or hobbies) that are appropriate for your lifestyle and conditioning level. Take a walk, it's not how fast you walk, it's just the movement - the act of doing it. Remember the turtle and the rabbit. The turtle won the race because he kept on moving at a slow comfortable pace. It's the fact that he finished the race that's important. The more you start doing, the more cofident you will be.
4. Identify self-ctitical thoughts and switch to self-rewarding thinking. In other words, get off your back.
5. Analyze your social behavior. By learning new social skills and assertive communication, you can often get needed support, feel better and more confident.
6. Listen to soft soothing relaxing music or something with lots of rhythm. Music is to the spirit of mankind like a bandaid is to a cut. The better you feel the more confident you are.
7. Learn to meditate. Two minutes, 10 minutes and 20 minutes.
8..Take a B vitamin complex and 5000 mg of sublingual vitamin B12. It make you feel better and gives you mind energy.
SMILE, this is always a good one, and try and be confident. I know its easier said than done, but do try, when you start meeting more people, you will find it easier.
Two things can be accomplished by your determination... learn to be humorous... learn to be good in some sport or game... either or both will increase your confidence in yourself. Then just be freindly!!
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