Social Anxiety Disorder?
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Therapy is helpful with this problem. A good therapist can teach you ways to manage your anxiety so that you can go into public places and talk to people.
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step by step. What you can change now? make the list what you need to change. write everything up. then start from easy one.
see a doc about meds. i take xanax for the same type of problem. it really helps.
yes my husband has it and ocd mildly but it is there and he won't get help and it affects every aspect of his life. You must go to a doctor and get meds that work..Not just any doctor but a good doctor that is highly recommended and you must get therapy to deal with the meds and your fears It will be ok if you posses the power to take charge of your life and not let the disease take over. you are in there trying to get out. Good luck to you honey
It is really good that you are concious of something going on. That's a really good first step.
You mention that you are in a new town. Bingo! That is a trigger for this sort of thing, and you will be surprised how many people - even adults - go through challenges just like yours. It's amazing why.
Think about where you moved from. Were you born there? Did you have a great number of friends there? In our brains there is a process called implicit memory that binds us to our surroundings and the people there. Ancient humankind almost never left a small piece of ground - and today Americans challenge that evolution by moving coast to coast. There is a price to pay and you are feeling it. You can adjust - which you are doing now - and that is where some of the anxiety (completely normal and natural) is coming from. Read on!
There is a condition called Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and you can research it on the web.
However, before you go too far down that path, I recommend a book that will explain a lot about how and why people relate. It's called A General Theory of Love, and it was written by scientists who asked the question: Why do we get so emotional? Why are we attached or attracted to people? What gets us nervous around people.
They have two ways of looking into that question: 1) through poetry and literature; 2) through neuroscience and behavioral experiments.
What they say about people is that there are levels in the brain that connect us socially that we do not access on an intellectual level. You can think and think, but you won't be able to figure out the reason for your anxiety. But 10 minutes with a therapist and he'll have most of the picture, and a lot of the solution. Wow! How can that be? Because our intellect is blind to much of the way we relate, since it's not based on language or symbols, but on body motions and "vibes" that we adopted in early life, and they are strategies that we repeat again and again.
That's why your family may not be the best place to ask the question about friendships and social anxiety because they are as blind as you are. You adapted to them long ago, and so what you experience now is perfect for relating to them - that particular pack of primates who live in that place you call home.
As you learn to release your anxieties, you may find yourself growing away from home - that's good, sort of. You need to go through that process with real love. You need to grow more accepting of people in your family with thoughts like "That's ok for you, but I am different now" and so forth. It's all in that book.
So after reading "A General Theory..." think about expanding into other books they recommend.
Try to avoid "self-help" type books on success and outgoingness....a lot of that stuff is jive. Stick to the science - it's cheaper to figure out and much more solid once you learn it.
Good Luck!
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