hi ive found that my partner has been on really erotic rooms and has chatted without me knowing hes hurt me?

Question: hi there i found out my partner of 18 months has been on web sites that i dont think are good for our relationship. hes posted his self all over them as willing to do what ever to get laid he has put all sorts of things dont get me wrong im not a prude many yrs ago i didnt think sex was such a big deal. now i do im one person and one person only maybe im in the wrong but i cant stand knowing he has chatted to another girl that hes offered himself in web sites im gutted. he says he has never met anyone and it was just a laugh but to me thats not a laugh we go to relate over the weekend thats how much a laugh its not we have 2 kids in the house and ive started to drink again im not the mom i used to be before this please help ive done aa in the past i just need advise on my partner thanx sue

Answers:
i think if he's serious about your relationship (and if you are to have a healthy one) he needs to consider your feelings in it. the fact of the matter is, people are going to give you opinions about whether or not this is considered cheating or right in a relationship. you're looking for a majority vote in favor of your opinion so you can tell him that in a normal relationship people don't do this. see, there's all these other people agreeing with me. look, different people consider different things in relationships to be okay. i don't particularly agree with what some people consider to be okay but...people are into different stuff. the important thing here is that he cares about what you think about this and is willing to talk to you about it and not blow it off like it was nothing. it's not nothing to you. if he can't see things this way, won't seriously talk to you about it, and won't see that it bothers you, maybe he's not the one for you. don't destroy yourself over this. take the higher road, please. lay off the drinking. every relationship has problems. it's gonna happen. but, you both have to be willing to put in the work to work on them.

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The Internet is an extremely dangerous place when there's a spouse 'playing around' on it. I'd suggest sit down and talk to him, ask him what he thinks can make it better, and possibly go to couples counselling.

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