Anyone actually diagnosed with Co-Dependency?

Question:

I have recently been told by my psychologist that I have a serious Co-Dependency problem and he thinks I should go to CoDA... its like AA for Co-Dependents. This is the first time someone has given me and actual answer and a reason for the way that i feel all the time and reasons for why i do the things i do and explained it to me, it was sad to hear and know what he was talking about. I am nervous about it and don't really know what to think...

Answers:
CO-DEPENDENCY IS REAL, AND SO MANY PEOPLE DON'T KNOW HOW CO-DEPENDANT THEY ARE.

IT BASICALLY BOILS DOWN TO BEING ADDICTED TO TOXIC PEOPLE.

YOU ARE FEELING ASHAMED BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT COMFORTABLE ADMITTING TO THIS. DON'T BE ASHAMED, YOU JUST DODN'T KNOW ANY BETTER. NOW YOU DO.

CHOOSE TO ADMIT TO THE PROBLEM. THAT IS THE FIRST STEP TO OVERCOMING IT.

ALL PROBLEMS ARE OPPORTUNITIES IN DISGUISE. THE ARE CHALLENGES TO 1-PVERCOME SOMETHING, 2-LEARN SOMETHING, AND 3-IMPROVE SOMETHING.

MISTAKES ARE MERELY WAYS TO LEARN WHAT DOESN'T WORK. THEY DO NOT DETRACT FROM YOUR QUALITY AS AN INDIVIDUAL. THEY GIVE YOU WISDOM.

THE DEFINITION IF INSANITY IS TO REPEATEDLY TRY TO DO SOMETHING THE SAME WAY, EXPECTING A DIFFERENT RESULT EACH TIME. THIS IS WHEN YOU REFUSE TO ADMIT YOUR METHOD IS FLAWED. DON'T DO THIS.

LISTEN TO YOUR COULSELLOR. THEY ARE THERE TO HELP YOU DISCOVER NEW AND DIFFERENT COPING SKILLS. DON'T FAULT YOURSELF FOR NOT KNOWING A BETTER WAY TO COPE WITH LIFE. JUST FAULT YOURSELF IF YOU KEEP REPEATING THE PATTERN, EVEN WHEN YOU KNOW ABOUT IT.

THIS ALL TAKES A GREAT DEAL OF COURAGE AND I HAVE A LOT OF RESPECT FOR YOU. LISTEN TO OTHERS WITH SIMILAR ISSUES. YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE, AND CERTAINLY THERE ARE OTHERS WHO HAVE IT WORSE THAN YOU.

SELF ESTEEM IN BULT BY YOU, AND YOU ALONE. YOU CAN'T EVER RELY ON SOMEONE ELSE FOR THAT. NO ONE WANTS THE JOB, ANYWAY.

SELF ESTEEM IS BUILT BY YOU, THROUGH MAKING ACCOMPLISHMENTS. MASTERING A SKILL OR TALENT IS ONE WAY TO DO IT. GETTING GOOD AT SOMETHING OR OTHER. LEARNING SOMETHING NEW. MEETING A CHALLENGE AND RISING TO THE OCCASION ARE OTHERS. IT'S ALL ON YOU. SCARY, HUH?

PEOPLE DO THE BEST THEY CAN WITH WHAT THEY KNOW. WHEN PEOPLE BECOME CO-DEPENDANT, IT IS BECAUSE THEY DON'T KNOW HOW NOT TO BE. LEARN HOW NOT TO BE, AND YOU WILL BE FINE.

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