How do I even cope?

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I am so depressed. My fiancee' doesn't want me to come back home since I left earlier but the thing is he told me to leave. I am 15 weeks pregnant with our baby. I am acually thinking about cutting my wrists again and the only thing that has stopped me thus far is the baby because I would never do anything to hurt her. Yea maybe my fiancee' had a bit much to drink and probably won't remember tomorrow but it just hurts so bad. Nothing seems to ease the pain. I have been depressed in the past because it is a family problem. I have also cut before and it just seems to help ease the pain. How else can I cope with losing him? I can't do this!

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Well let me just start by saying... RELAX. I have been in your shoes. I was pregnant when my husband left. Twice!! Yeah i didn't learn the first time. But let me tell you there is nothing in life more precious then the baby that you are carrying. Your feelings are hurt and understandably so, but it's not about you anymore. There are two now. So whatever you do or dont do affects the two of you. That baby does not have a voice. It cant tell you everything is going to be okay, but it will be. My grandma always tells me that THIS TO SHALL PASS.. She's 90 and has been through a lot in her life and ya know what she is RIGHT. What seems like the end of the world today will soon be a distant memory. There is no feeling in the world like holding your baby for the first time and looking into that innocent face. It's 100% love. You have to do what's right by the baby, not the boyfriend. Guys come and go but that baby will be with you forever. make sure to take care of yourself. I hope you are seeing a doctor and taking your vitamins. That baby is counting on YOU. Be strong for the baby. A baby can sense stress and anger even in utero. It's been studied. So it is so important for you to relax. Do you have a friend you can call to hang out with? If you want to chat you let me know. Take care God Bless and remember this to shall pass.

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That's a terrible thing to have to experience. I hope that things work out. But, to be honest, he may be the one that needs help. Try talking to a close friend or counselor. Look online for simple tips on avoiding cutting. I hope that you find what is truly best for you and your baby. Stay strong.

you need to talk to someone honey.Can you go to a professional for help? Is there a minister or a family member? How about a good friend? In the mean time take care of yourself and your baby. Remember that this too shall pass. Life wont be awful forever. good luck I will be praying for you.

Get some counseling, dump the loser that threw you out when you are pregnant and look into adoption. It doesn't seem that this child will help with any of your previous "cutting" or family problems.

Try attending al-anon meetings. The people there will help you cope with your bf drinking. It's a start anyway. As for the cutting, look up 'borderline personality disorder and see if this sounds like what you are going through.

I'm so sorry. I will pray for your well being. Live for your family and your baby to come. Why stay in a relationship where you are not appreciated? Be strong, you can do it. Trust me. Don't cut yourself. That will not solve anything.

Please see your doctor may be go to the ER. Please don't put your happiness in other people's hands they're only human. There are other people out there that would love you and your little girl. You already have someone inside of you who thinks the world of you don't let her down. Here's your chance to be the best mom you can be to this little person. I've had four of them and there's nothing like it. Hang in there remember it's dark before the light.

First begin by surrounding yourself with close friends or family that are supportive. It is a serious thing to even consider harming yourself physically. Cutting, as you call it, is not going to solve anything. You said that this "pain" eases the pain. But what about the pain it may cause others like your family and friends who love you? And then there's the baby. You are going to be a mother soon, and so you need to keep your chin up, stop taking crap from boyfriend, and take control of your situation. You are a lot tougher than you may think.

Sweetie. It is not your fault. You need to forget about him and think of yourself an you little baby right now. You need to get a good friend or family to take you to the ER. If you do not have one you need to take yourself. You can get help. You need counselling an professional help right now. If you cannot get a family or friend to take you in you need to find someone to help you and get social services or a shelter. It is not your fault it is your mind and body, but you do need help fast. Go to an emergency room and get help. Forget about the man and take care of yourself and your baby. I am so sorry this is happening to you. Doctors and counsellors are there to help you.

Please look up and telephone a suicide prevention hot line as soon as possible. Don't worry about the time. they are staffed 24/7. These people (God bless them), are trained to stabilise your situation and to start you on the road to sort out the mess using professional people that are knowlegeable about your problem and many others like it. They know all kinds of ways to do things and resources that neither of us are even aware of.
A chat with them will quickly make you feel better, and fill you with hope and positive thoughts. It IS NOT as bad a situation as you may think.
Counselling would probably help too.
Don't be ashamed A lot of us have been that down, including me. Believe it.
Please make the call now. (use 911 if you feel you cannot do it by yourself.
Good luck, and I'm with you, thinking about you
Dan.

stop cutting your self that's not going to make your life any easier. try to find a different way to release pain, grow up, stop stressing, be more independent, do your own thing. don't ague with your husband,only give him advice.do your own thing, get a hobby, act as if you got it all under control, If your man doesn't change with in a year or so leave him, find a good father for your baby. but first try to work it out with your man.be strong girl

There are people available to share your pain; it's free of charge & there will be some in the groups who have been right where you are now... It's called Alanon and it's for the family & friends of the drinker...
AS you said, he probably won't remember tomorrow & you have the baby to think of...
A baby on the way is a stress on both parents-to-be.....Now is the time to get help; please don't wait !...
No one can handle this on their own; We need each other; it is confidential. FREE, No one will judge you or talk about you.
it's 1-888-425-2666 or
online alanon.org
alateen.org

you may wait about another 5 weeks as too sex your baby.Asfer as you spanking all that chevy azz at the drags I think ur full of something.I run a 69 impalla with a blown 434 small block chev.350 auto,5.14 posi the car weighs 4250 w/driver best1/4mi. 10.91 @123.56mph.I drive this car on the street all the time.I havent found too many stanges that will keep up.well keep it on all 4`s and keep moving foward it is possible to build a fast stang.

I know it hon.it is us women that bear the burden of rasing the kids..He is probably scared like most men are of things they do not understand..well hey that is everyone to a point..Having a baby is a life changing experiance that is forever..Its scary..but the most beautiful, thing you will ever do... Dont cut yourself..Is that gonna bring him back? Help you sleep? What happens if you get an infection?? You are going to be a MOTHER it is time to put the baby first...and maybe accept the reality of being a single mother..I hope you work it out..For all 3 of you..

Your situation is a complicated one. You are best to go and talk to someone at ER if your are pregnant and wanting to cut yourself. This is not a good thing.
Talk to people at pregnancy resource centres if there are any near you. they can provide help. If there isn't any around you, go to the Salvation Army and ask to go to a Grace Home if they have one near you.

you know just see a doctor. you are preciuos towards God's eyes. do not let this idiot take control of your mind. think about it you're gonna kill not just yourself but a baby. he or she may be a lawyer or a doctor. call 1-8oo suicide. speak to me dogmicjoe@yahoo.com. at 1 point, i wanted to kill myself. so take it from a survivor, no. stay strong cuz i have a friend who has a baby with a deadbeat.

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