Just women with clinical depression, please!?
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Thanks god i make a good leaving and I gave her a brand new SUV, and she just said " thanks". I going to take her to europe this summer and she said she would go only if her girlfriend goes along. I already gave her flowers, told her i love her, but anything works. She doesn´t even touch me. Any ideas ?
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I HAVE MAJOR RE-OCCURRING CLINICAL DEPRESSION. I HAVE BEEN STABLE SINCE 1997 AND I NOW HAVE A WONDERFUL AND FULL LIFE. GETTING WELL WAS A LONG AND HARD JOURNEY, NOT ONLY FOR ME BUT FOR MY FAMILY AS WELL. HERE IS MY BEST ADVISE :
MATERIAL THINGS WILL DO NOTHING TO HELP THE PROBLEM. YOUR WIFE NEEDS TO FIND A GOOD THERAPIST,SO SHE CAN GET TO THE ROOT OF HER PROBLEMS SO SHE CAN START TO UNDERSTAND WHAT IS HAPPENING TO HER. ONLY THEN CAN SHE START TO COPE AND HEAL. IF YOUR WIFE'S PSYCHIATRIST HAS PRESCRIBED MEDICATION, SHE WILL NEED TO MONITORED SO THAT YOU AND THE DR WILL KNOW IF SHE IS TAKING THEM CORRECTLY. MANY PEOPLE WANTING TO STABILIZE HAVE ISSUES WITH TAKING MEDS IN HE BEGINNING. ALSO IT CAN SOMETIMES TAKE A LONG TO TO FIND THE RIGHT MEDICATION/S . PLEASE DO NOT GET DISCOURAGED. SHE SHOULD ALSO FIND OUT ABOUT JOINING A SUPPORT GROUP, AS SHOULD YOUR FAMILY. JUST SO YOU KNOW IT TOOK ABOUT 4 YEARS FROM INITIAL DIAGNOSIS FOR ME TO TO REACH STABILIZATION. I AM STILL ON MEDS AND MOST LIKELY ALWAYS WILL BE, AND I ALSO STILL GO TO THERAPY ONCE EVERY MONTH. YOUR WIFE NEEDS TO ACTIVELY PARTICIPATE IN HER RECOVERY., BEFORE SHE WILL GET BETTER. THE MORE TOOLS YOU GIVE HER THE BETTER HER CHANCES ARE FOR GETTING CONTROL OF HER LIFE BACK. BEST OF LUCK.
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just tell her how much u love her women well most women dont need exspencive things she just needs u
Ok, first of all she needs to be in a doctor's care for this, and probably also therapy.
Second, you seem to be trying to show her love in ways she doesn't respond. Get some marital counseling and find out how to rub her the right way.
Finally, don't be distant. That's the last thing she wants. Depression is absolute hell on the inside and we want the people we love to continue to try to break into our world with compassion and persistent encouragement. She probably feels abandoned when you back off emotionally.
Your problems don't sound like they have as much to do with depression, as they do your wife's lack of respect & love for you. If she insists her "girlfriend" go on vacation w/you. She may be cheating with the "girlfriend" or out manhunting w/her. Stop being a door mat. Stop the flowers, gifts, vacations, everything.Then see how long she continues the rudeness. Clinical depression is NO excuse for treating loved ones like crap! If she's not on meds, get her an appt w/ her Dr. if she's on meds ask to change or adjust dosage. Good luck. Be up front with her. Tell her how much you love and care about her and that you're concerned about her and you want to do something to help. Buying her things will not fix this. Maybe suggest counseling or couples counseling. Ask her for suggestions as to what to do to help her. When you approach her with this, be sure you do it in a loving, and sensitive way. If she knows you truly care about her well being she'll be more willing to help you help her.
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