can severe anger be cured? can i overcome this? i really hope so..?


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hello, im 29 and im presentley dealing with issues like alot of anxiety that gives me butterflies in my stomach, paranoia, and in anger that overwhelmes me sometimes, although ive not lost control, i keep fighting it. ive lost control in the past where i kicked someone up the butt. im waiting for psychotherapy. ive had these issues since i was 15 im 29 now, but i dont have a diagnosis, i could never integrate or mix well in 'high' school and was bullied and teased alot. but its funny how i had friends at home on my street and loved playing outside.presentley though i have so much inner anger that it worries me. when i go out just looking at other people who appear to be happy can cause this. i feel so much frustration & feel isolated all the time. i havent got a partner, never really had 1, havent got any friends. ive come so close to blowing sometimes by me 'staring' not bein able to look away.& theres been someone asked me what im lookin at. i feel so ashamed. but keep workin at it

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sounds like you are stress-sensitive and this triggers anger in you really quickly.

how to deal with anger? takes a lot of patience. when i was younger, i had a temper too and i was so immature.

how i got over it? i believe in immunity -- when you get exposed to evironments that trigger stress in you -- often -- you get used to the stress and you become more and more patient.

another thing was, when i was younger i have always been quiet and i didn't want to interact with other people. growing up in my country, when i moved in the united states -- imagine my stress. i have to use another language fluently and i have to deal with people i don't know. but somehow i kinda outgrew it -- and especially since it's very important because i was entering a field (health) wherein you deal with people a lot -- so finally i got used to it and it helped me exercise patience.

also i felt alone all the time -- that was one of the many things that triggered it of course. i know what frustration is like -- it felt empty. i was there too you know. but if you try to "change" your personality, try to be more helpful of others, stop thinking about yourself and start thinking about other people -- that moves you to a whole new level. i've read articles about world hunger and when i try to tell myself that i want to help someday, i tend to forget all about my worries and pains -- there are people with bigger problems than us.

if it worked for me, it'll work for you. but first you have to recognize what's "stressing" you or what's causing your anger and try to address them in a more tactful way.

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YA YOU JUST HAVE TO WORK AND NOT LET IT TAKE OVER YOUR LIFE
Try Jesus. and getting some exercise
See an M.D and then a Pdoc(Talk Doc) and maybe get an MRI or CAT scan of your brain.

Exercise, take fish oil, get a hobby and by all means KEEP busy.
maybe you should see a therapist who might beable to work with you through your problems, maybe their is a under lying problem that you arent aware of or something that happened in your past that you have blocked out, you need to find the source of your anger, i hope you can sort through this and live a happier and calmer life, dont know what else to suggest
I think that anger can be cured.i know alot of people that have anger issues.If you learn that there is a better way to express yourself than with anger.Maybe since you were bullied you got all those emotions into a big ball inside of you.I think that you need to try hard to get a friend and as your friendship grows you'll be able to overcome your insacurity.Because thats all it really is.
Hmm,,Try to be with someone you like or love.
All I know is u need to get help cuz some idiot with an anger problem murdered my best friend 13 years ago. We still havent found the killer but I am sure whoever did it had an anger problem.
it is certainly easier said than done, but please trust me if you try meditation and yoga you will ERADICATE this trait from your life. You will be taught calming techniques, breathing and relaxation exercises and some simple visualisations.

Also, investigate a little in Bach Flower Remedies. You can read about it online and the remedies are available at most good homeopathic pharmacies. I would also advise you to read a wonderful book called 'You Can Heal Your Life' by Louise Hay. It deals with affirmations to help overcome many issues and problems.

Most importantly be patient and be kind to yourself. Anger projected outwardly is usually the reverse of depression which is inwardly. Sending you lots of light and healing.
Yes, you can overcome this. You are doing the right thing by getting a psychotherapist's counseling. Follow through with this kind of help.
If you've had a difficult life, it can lead to a situation that is similar to post traumatic stress disorder. You end up in a heightened state of arousal, and you can be easily aggravated, and just as easily become severely afraid or depressed.
Or you may have developed a chemical imbalance which can be treated with anti-anxiety medications.
In either of these cases, medication is not necessary. It sounds like you could use a systematic desensitization treatment, which can be performed by a psychologist or a psychiatrist. Please check to see if they have a PhD, MD, or PsyD first -- people who call themselves psychotherapists can do so without having a degree, and may do more harm then good.and at the very least will just take your money.
Work on yourself first, and once you get past that hump, you'll find you're much more able to socialize, and you will have an easier time finding friends and, perhaps, a partner in the future. Remember that this can be a long haul -- but it's much more worth it than living the rest of you life in pain, right?

Much luck -- if you need any advice, I'd be glad to oblige!
I truly believe sever anger can be overcome. I used to be such an angry person. People used to say that I was psycho all the time. I used to cuss my husband daily and hit him and throw things at him. The weird thing is I never took it out on my kids. It was like my anger was directed at him for no good reason. He is good to me and always has been. I was just mean and evil to him and some other people, too. I have said the most hurtful things to this man. You just cannot imagine the things I have done to him. I thank God above that he is even still with me. I have told him to drop dead and that I wish he would die in a wreck as he was getting into his car. I mean I was brutal. I woke up one morning, literally, and decided that I was tired of being that way. I was tired of being mad about being mad. I was sick and tired of being sick and tired so I sought help. I went to the community mental health facility and told them how I was. They wanted to stick all kinds of labels on me and diagnose me with all kinds of disorders, but what it boiled down to was that I was just an extremely angry person. I did consent to being put on an antidepressant called Lexapro and my life is totally different now. I am calm and relaxed and I think before I speak to anyone especially my husband and my kids. I am a happy person. It now takes alot to make me mad, but I never get angry like I used to. I no longer hit and throw things. I owe my life and my marriage to that morning I walked into that facility. I do believe this can be overcome because if I did it anyone can.
Yes, why not? Where there is a will !


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