Anybody get proffesional advice because you knew a loved one that got addicted to crack??
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I am an "recovering" addict, myself. A everyday user, for more than 10 yrs.. No bullshit, every, single, day. I think that you are asking the wrong question. I think your question,to yourself, should be "What will be best for my, soon to come, child and myself ?" The answer to that could be - To have positive and responsible people, to share our future with. Addicts are controlled by their "vice". He needs to be more caring for YOU, not you being more caring for him. You are pregnant, he's smok'n rock and roaming the night. Are you serious ? That boy needs to "check-himself". You could look into something called "co-dependency". It's for people who have loved ones, who are addicts. It's about, how to cope and deal with an addict loved one. And how not to feel responsible, for that person or your decisions about him/her. I think you should be honest with him and tell him that you know, what he is up to. In a concerned, kinda way. So he doesn't get too defensive ( he will get defensive) about it. Do the right thing. He'll make your choice,to leave him or not, for you. By his action( by proving that he has quit), not by his words. Cuz we all know, words don't mean sh-it. Give him a couple of months, see what he does.
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He needs to go for treatment. You need to be safe and keep your baby safe. Crack heads steal a lot and lie. They also do crack (which really sucks). He needs real love . Help him check in somewhere.
LEAVE HIM , and not later,, LEAVE HIM fast, if you stay with him you are telling him his crack addicition is ok,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, It is not ok. Tell him why your leaving, it will either make him see the problem or wont. Also if you dont leave him you maybe setting yourself up for a whole lot of pain and misery. I know of this not from professional help but because I am a recovering addict,,, not just crack but many other drugs as well. So sweetheart, please heed my advice and leave him,, tell him if he gets help and in time,,, like 6 months to a year and he is still clean and sober then you 2 can work things out. I hope the best for you and will pray for you and your b/f. God Bless
well i am in a similar situation my duaghter is now 41/2 years old when i got pregnant he started doing drugs and not saying you guy will do the same thing or anything but mine stayed out all nite ended up messing around on me i got a std ..and a month after our daughter was born he went to jail and when he got out right back again and again.you can get advice but the only way he is gonna stop with the drugs is if he wants to and it is a very hard habbit to break i wish all the luck in the world
A DRUG ADDICT IS THE WORST PERSON TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH. THEY WILL NEVER DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT UNTIL THEY AND ONLY THEY REALIZE IT IS A PROBLEM AND NOT A PAST TIME ACTIVITY. MY HEART BREAKS FOR EVERYONE IN THESE SITUATIONS. BEEN THERE TOO MANY TIMES AND ITS HORRIBLE PAIN TO WATCH SOMEONE DO THAT TO THEMSELVES AND YOU. I AM IN A RELATIONSHIP NOW WITH EN EX-USER OF COCAINE, X, XANEX, ETC. WEVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 4 YEARS, THE FIRST 2 HE WAS ON DRUGS SO MANY UPS AND DOWNS.MOSTLY DOWNS AT THE BEGINNING AND IT TOOK SO MUCH TIME AND EFFORT TO TRY TO HELP HIM. HE IS NOW STRAIGHT AND WE ARE PERFECTLY IN LOVE AND NEVER HAPPIER. MY ADVICE IS THAT IF YOU TRULY LOVE HIM, WHEN YOU ARE TRYING TO HELP YOU OR HIM, THINK OF HIM AS A PERSON AND NOT SOMEONE YOU ARE IN LOVE WITH. I MEAN, INSTEAD OF THINKING HOW WHAT HE DOES WILL AFFECT YOUR RELATIONSHIP, HELP HIM BY THINKING THAT YOU WOULDNT WANT ANYONE YOU KNOW TO BE LIKE THIS. THERE IS NO GOOD SOLUTION TO THIS PROBLEM EXCEPT LEAVE HIM OR HE HAS TO KICK THE HABIT. GOOD LUCK, BEST WISHES FOR YOU BOTH, AND HOPE YOU DO WHATS BEST FOR YOUR BABY RIGHT NOW.
Leave him . do you want to raise your child in a crack house..do you?
For his own good turn him in, go away till he is very very clean an dry.
Well do you ?
If you stay, it is the same as telling him that his behavior is accpetable. Addicts have to hit bottom before they see how far they have fallen. He can't do this if you are there to hold him up. I wish I would have gotten professional help when I dealt with this situation. It is a very good option for you and seeing a professional may help you find the strength you need to leave. If you go to a center specifically for women, some of them have homes to help you move out until you find a new place to live. Please leave him hun. You need to make sure that you, your baby and he is safe. Staying with him will accomplish none of this. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to contact me. :^)
i hope you are not on the sh@t, you must love yourself first and remove yourself from the situation, his love is the drug. UNtil then you and your baby will be on hold.
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