what is wrong with me?all my life ive been trying to make people happy and im miserable what do i do?
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'Your duty is only to do what you know or feel is right. But you are in no way responsible for the results of your efforts - for that is in God's own Hands'
.That is what The Bhagavat Gita, a Hindu scripture, says : When you consciously try to gain happiness by giving it to others, you are bound to be disappointed and frustrated.
.Expect and accept nothing for your efforts, and you will suddenly find that everything and everybody around you are making you so very happy.
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Try doing something to make yourself happy for a change.
Grow up
that is your first problem.. you worry too much about mkaing everyone else happy. you need to start with making yourself happy and be happy with who you are; and then when u have that all straightened out.. you can be the good samaritian.
Start trying to make yourself happy. Do things you enjoy and make friends with happier people.
people that pursuit happiness never find it. Its when you fill your life with other things that happiness will arise.
Also if making people happy has brought you misery, then pissing people off will make you filled with joy. You can do it, you have my permission.
If people like you because of what you do for them, screw-em. Concentrate on what makes you happy and get on with your life. The more you depend on other people to validate your self esteem the more disappointed you will be.
"I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody."
I believe you should move on and get yourself engaged in the activities you like the most and take a walk every evening.
I understand completely. I'm the same way. Or at least I was. I've made myself understand that I can't make everyone happy, it just doesn't work. So I just do what I can, but only if it doesn't hurt me in the long run. And then I focus on myself for awhile and do what I want to do instead of pleasing others. I was also prone to living the way I thought everyone wanted me to live and realized that each person I was trying to please had shortcomings of their own and they didn't seem to mind that I didn't approve. So finally I started living my life my way instead of theirs. And I adopted the attitude that if they didn't like it, then don't watch me. I've been a much happier person since these realizations hit and don't want to go back to the old way. Hope this helps a little.
have you ever heard the saying,"nice guys finish last"? the same thing applies here. don't start completely pissing people off, then your life would be a hell hole. trybeing nice to others, but do something for yoursellf sometime, you'll feel great!
it's great that you like making other's happy, but every now and then you gotta do something for yourself.
basically forget making people happy..if they dont like u..forget them stop trying to please them.you shudnt have to please anybody..
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