I am having a problem with my clinically depressed boyfriend, any advice?
Question:
When we'e together he showers me with romance and affection. He tells me how much he loves me. We have talked about marriage and having a family together. He doesn't have another relationship.
I often don't hear from him for days due to his hectic work schedule. He works 70+ hours, 6 days a week. So I'm usually the one that calls him, I only call every few days. He has told me that it is forbidden for him to have a relationship with the customers (I am a customer at his store). He is CLINICALLY DEPRESSED, and shy. I don't want to come off as trying too hard or nagging him. But I miss him. I am trying to be mature about this (I am 25, he is 36) I love him. What should I do?
Answers:
Well to begin with im suffering from depression too and it can cause problems in a relationship. My advice is give him space, to let him figure things out. Then call him or, even go and see him. Talk to him in person and tell him you will always be there for him.
Be strong for him, having depression can make things hard but dont give up, your love for him will keep you strong. Remind him that there is help for his problem. Even counseling can help, im in counseling myself and its working.
Everyone is different, but if you really love him, try to get him some help. Counseling can help, just remember dont push him, that may make things worse. Just keep strong , talk to him and continually tell him you love him.
Well I hope things get better for you, God bless and I will be praying for you.
Other Answers:
Has he been diagnosed as clinically depressed. People that are truely medically depressed can barely get out of bed never mind go to work. You can't help him unless he helps hiself. If he is truely depressed, he needs to see a psycologist, psycotherapist or his doctor. Is he euphoric one minute and really down the next? If so this sounds like manic depression and this can only be controlled with medication.
I understand everything you said. My wife suffers from depression and at times she says she just hate me. Just imagine how I feel because I truly love her.
My best advice for him: Seek professional help
My best advice for you: It might be a chronic problem so you have to evaluate where you are standing. If you want to stand by his side give him room and try to understand ( which at times is very, very difficult) I also recommend you to seek for help, because it is going to be a very long road.
Best wishes you really need it.
Sounds like you ARE clinically depressed also. Either you got it from him or u were clinically derpessed when beforehand.
U keep asking the same self absorbed questions and don't listen to logic and reason. Like attracts like. IYou're attracted to who you are. If you're in love with an abusive, clinically depressed moron, then what does that make you?
And you talk about wanting to have a family with him? You're being SELFISH! WHY in the WORLD would u want your kids,youre flesh and blood to have a father like this idiot? Your kids will end up being f*cked up like him. And your kids will end up finding relationships that are abusive.
Think of your future kids if u don't love yourself enough to think of yourself.
TAKE RESPONSIBILITY.
Well dear it is a very difficult situation. I know cause I am exactly in such position. My husband is a Bipolar, and we got married an year back. I knew from the very beginning that he is Bipolar, but then it was my choice to marry him. The ball is in your court honey. Do you want to marry him? A person who suffers from any kind of depression is usually a very selfish person. When they are with people they only care about them, but when alone, such person only loves himself. The frequent outbursts of your husband has got nothing to do with your calling him at work. He himself doesn't know why he does that. The chemical components of the brain goes for a toss in this situation, and the person effected can do anything. They are basically abusive, addicted and either hyper or suicidal. Take him to a good psychiatrist. And then it is up to you. Whether you can take it for the rest of your life. Dont expect anything from him. He loves you undoubtedly, but then at the same time he has a different world and nobody is allowed there.not even you. God Bless You Sweety
call his house and leave a message and tell him what you just told us and let him know your there for him and that he can call you when he's ready but also make it known that you miss him and (if your ready) that you love him.
obviously, he wants you but he can't cuz of rules. give him space to decide. meanwhile research clinical depression online.
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