How long does it take to get over the tragic death of a child?

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You don't "get over" the death of a child, but you do "accept it" as the reality it is. Puting yourself through constant pain after six long years is
actually a choice to a certain degree. Perhaps that's your way of continuing to feel connected. Perhaps you fear if you let go of the pain-
release it-you'll be letting go of the connection. Please don't think I am
being critical-these words come from the heart of one who knows. I had
a beautiful daughter-her departure from this world was so unexpected.
The only thing worse than standing by her grave on that cold January day
was re-opening that same plot a little more than 1 year later-to lay her
wonderful brother-my only son-by her side. I truly thought the pain would
kill me. But as time passed, I chose to start each day anew-I chose to
go forward-and I chose to smile again. We carried on-it's really all anyone can do. Ten years later I buried Molly-my bright eyed wonder child. To my amazement,people in my life at that time were actually expecting me to crack-the last emotional straw. But we had 2 children
who needed us more than ever. I don't know why things happen- we are
really not meant to, but I do know that I was the best possible mom
I could be to our other children-taking absolutely nothing in their lives for granted. Today, I see 8 of the brightest, kindest and most loving human
beings I have ever known when I look at the other children we were blessed with. I'll never forget Schyler, Cole, or Molly and yes, from time
to time even my little Grandaughter reminds me of the loss so many years ago-but the tears are greatful and proud-cause I know they've really
always been here all along. Reach out-give that love to someone who needs it-then, in time, you'll know exactly what I mean.
God Bless You Always.

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different for everyone who goes through it. dependent on many variables.

until u meat him in heaven

otherwise never

You never "get over it" but the pain eases and becomes bearable.Time heals all wounds.

a life time ask GOD to give you the strength to face each new day and realize that you are not the only 1 in the family that is suffering also GOD BLESS You never get over something that, you must learn to live with it, pain will be lesser with time but it will never go away. Lost one back in 1967 and still missing him every single day.

it really depend on the individual. I would probably never forget this. I would have to be strong for the other children.
At night I would fall to pieces

Find a group , Newspapers list them .example "compassionate friends"l I don't think you can ever get over it , you can only learn to live with it. I can't imagine a greater loss. Allow yourself the time to greive. I don't think you ever get over losing someone you love. They say time will lessen the pain and that may be true to some extent but I think the longer they are gone the more you miss them. I think you learn to accept that they are gone and you learn to get on with day to day living, but I don't think you ever really get over it. I hope this question does not apply to you, and if it does you have my deepest sympathy. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. Be strong.

Ouch. I don't think you do ever..

i was pregnant with my 1st child back in 1997 and i had a midterm miscariage and she was a little girl i named her and everything..she wieghed 8oz and was 6in long and was just a very tiny version of a baby.i'm telling you this because i never even really got to love her and to this day i am still not over that.so you really and truely may never get over this tragedy but don't be DISCOURAGED because even though this may always way on your heart you will in time start to feel better and may even be able to enjoy the past memories without feeling that heavy heart..because even though that child is gone off this earth they will always be with your heart and soul..GOD BLESS

I don't think anyone can answer that question. Everyone grieves in their own time. My aunt lost two of her children,her son 36 to cancer and her daughter 46 to ms. and now she has cancer. What gets her through is her faith in God, she is the strongest bravest woman I know. She would tell you to turn it over to God and pray and let him help you through it You will never truly get over it. But in time it will become bearable, if doesn't get better after a year you should seek professional help, or a support group.

I truly hope this was a hypothetical question.

GOD BLESS YOU It depends on how you choose to deal with it. A more positive out look always help. Everyone has their own way of dealing with life circumstances. Whether it be a child or parent etc. it isn't easy but taking life one day at a time worked for me.

never!

I don't think that you will ever get over losing something as precious as a child.
My brother and his wife lost their 16 year-old son to a tragic death in 1999, and they are still grieving. I think that they always will, but we pray for them every day, that the pain will get a little easier to bear.
The sad thing is that no one can help you through this pain. No one can say that they know how you feel, because they don't. My sister-in-law told me that it makes her very angry when people say that, because she knows that they are lying, they don't know how she feels.
A lady who had lost her daughter many years before, once told me, 'You never get over it, but, it is like carrying a heavy load---the longer you carry it, the lighter it seems. You will carry it for the rest of your life, but it will just get a little easier to carry.'
May God bless you and your family and help you through this terrible loss.

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