Need Help With Life..?
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1. Pray to The Lord and Savior Jesus Christ and God The Father
2. Think more positive about your life.
3. Set short term and long term goals for yourself.
4. Strive to complete these goals, one step at a time.
Other Answers:
see someone professional and begin to talk and get problems out in the open
Join the Army or just get a job or go to community college. Get out there and make something of yourself, you won't regret it.
Do something exciting in your life, join the military, there's always a brotherhood of good friends there. And you'll be doing something meaningful with your life and get paid!
Sounds to me like you suffer from depression..Go to a counselor or your family doc and explain to them what is going on.If this is the case, you will be prescribed medication that will make you feel better.Take care!
hey try to join some groups that do whatever you enjoy its a great way to have fun and meet lots of new people.
Try volunteering at something you care about. You will meet other people who care about the same thing you do. A common interest is the quickest way to make friends.
You have a void in your life. Fill it with a healthy hobby such as something outdoors fishing, hiking, biking, skateboarding or if your not into the outdoors as much art for example can be a great way to release energy and it can be rewarding to see a finished peice.
Get out more! If getting a job and a driver's license will help then put away your fears and get them! Life is waaaay too short to live in misery,especially if there is something we can do about it.You have sooo much to look forward to in life,and a whole world waitng for you to join in.GO AHEAD<DO IT!!
I think you have to change your outlook on life and try to find ways to see the positive in your life.. For instance don't look at the negative, try to find the good in everything and actively work on making your life better. Perhaps you should see your doctor about depression as well.
I wish you luck!
Maybe you should try driving with a drivers trainer for a little while until you get over you nervousness. You do need to have a job at your age. You would feel better about yourself and you would not have all that time to be bored. People choose to be happy or unhappy people. Go out there and become the person you want to be.
you have to get out to see whats out there don't be scared of new things. i'm a little shy too but that doesn't stop me. the 1st thing you should do is find some new people to talk to 2nd look for a job maybe you can meet new people there. but whatever happens live life like theres no tomorrow-Eren
Okay- no job.yes, it does make things a bit easier to be out in the working force
But.you can also volunteer! You can gain experience by volunteering..and make good friends that way,too.
Maybe take a class in something you'd like to learn-like shop or pottery or painting or a language or whatever!
I've great friends from classes.
:)
you should start working out, it fills time well and you get a great body to boot. Besides sports build self esteem and see where you can go from there. oh, and a job would not hurt either.
You do need to talk to someone who you can confy in and trust them, tell them how you feel. You might be going through some depression. I have been there done that. Noone should be without friends or atleast 1 friend. I have very few myself. Maybe try talking to your parents, and tell them you are serious and want them to listen to you. Go places to meet people. Sounds like you might be SHY, and thats ok.. It happens to the best of us. Hang in there honey, but do talk to someone. You sound lonely and noone should feel that way.. OK.. email me if you want to talk more at lost4words1952@yahoo.com.. Good Luck..
It sounds like you have already decided part of what you need to do. So maybe you could calm yourself enough to get that license and then that would get ya out of the house. Get out there and find you a job that would be fitting and don't look back. You just sound like you need to get out and I think once you do, you will wonder what you were worried about.
That sounds like me, but I do have a job, but no drivers license. and I have friends, and their always busy, and I don't have a girl friend. I do get bored. **** man we're like brothers.
Enjoy it, and think of it as not having to deal with other's BS for now, because soon enough you'll have plenty of "friends" and will be listening to the whining and complaining. Not that it will be a bad thing because some friends will be worth it. You're young, things will change! Good luck!
You may want to go talk to your doctor. It sounds like you might have a bit of a social phobia. I did at your age. I was out and about but afraid of many things to move forward. I know Paxil is a good medicine to help .or possibly you have a mild depression.I would really talk to a doctor or therapist. And seeing a therapist does not mean you are wacky. In fact it is quite trendy to talk to a professional about your problems. Although I don't like the word trendy..let me say it is very HEALTHY..It did help me
give it a try.
good luck to you guy !
applesoulgirl
I would guess that your procrastination is due to depression - which is easily put under control with antidepressant meds and/or therapy.
The person who answered .you should talk to a professional, and get things out in the air. is right. Please try to do so.
if you do suffer from depresin, its becasue you dont have any freinds.. its hard to make normal people freinds. you should re-think your job and try to go to school if you arent already. you can make freinds with people that you see every other day
email me at ncc1274@yahoo.com . I have been in the same position as you, so I know exactly how you feel. Please let me try to help you. I have met many people on here that have helped me and I would like the chance to help someone else. Please get in touch with me. I really want to help. You sound as if you need someone to talk to that will listen.
dude!
you need to talk to me i think we are living in two different dimesons.
I am 17 and got the same problem.
This is what i do every day.
Wake up about 1:pm
I do this school stuff that i have to do to get my diploma cuz i am dumb like that. when i am done there i work out for an hour i eat my dinner play a couple internet games and maybe work on a book.
I just lost my damn job and have nothing to do.
Expect better my self
I figure i am not like the rest of the world seeing that instead of living and going out partying i am more like a monk. It s like putting aside all of your entertainment and realy living and seeing what life is about. what i try to do is force my self to stay up all night and watch the sun come up i have done this every day for three days. You become very enlighted when doing this. It s like the day never ends. What else is there to do when there nothing else do at all to. Stay up all night!
you say that those two things will make you happier, try to get them. even if you're scared of not getting it, coz it's important for you not to stand still. you might also want to get started in a youth group, meet new people, i think you don't get friends not because people don't wanna be friends with you, but mainly cause you want something exciting to happen to you, that you can't see potential friends just in front of you. im just like you,and i know it is just hard to make the situation better, no matter what anyone can tell you to make you feel better, mainly that it causes you lo lose confidence in yourself. so yea, go around, do things you like, without thinking of how long and boring your days might be, things will get better, just hope so.
im thinking "whose telling you that" im just like that, 16, no learning licence, no bf, no friends. and desperately trying to make it to level 2 ; )
Some of the things you mention -- not enjoying ordinary life much at all, having some nervousness -- make me think you should check out the book "Feeling Good" by Dr David Burns and Dr. Aaron Beck. It's about mood-related conditions like anxiety and depression.
The "cognitive therapy" it describes is proven to work for lots of people, and it involves recognizing how our thinking habits can make life look worse than it really is -- which gives us feelings of anxiety, sadness, etc. It's a good place to start making some improvements in mental health.
Dude you don't even REALIZE how much we are alike! I am also 18. I have no job or licence either. I only have one friend as well. I am going through the exact same thing you are so if you ever need to talk I'm here for ya! moomesa007@yahoo.com
I REALLY UNDERSTAND!
Hey Alex. It sounds like you are kinda depressed. Don't do anything weird ok? Life is too short to worry. It sounds stupid, but try to get/be happy. I just moved to the States, and don't have a job yet either, and no driver's license(USA), have a Dutch one. Sometimes I get sad, but I know once I have my license and a job, I'll be happier. You can start with this: Do you have a friend/brother/sister who you can go work out with? If not put an ad on craigslist.com, and ask for someone that would love to have a workout partner, you can drive with him/her until you have your license. Working out will change your way of thinking big time, trust me. It will motivate you to do stuff BIG TIME :)
I'm from Holland(The Netherlands), the national color of Holland is Orange. They have done a study, and recently they came with this: If you feel depressed/ not happy etc, try to get some stuff for your bedroom that have the color orange. For girls it's easier, things like candles etc. Get an orange mug to drink out, orange shirt etc..Subconsiously the color orange makes peoples minds happier :)
What else? Are you done with collage etc? I think you are afraid of the real world, like getting a job etc. What if you look for something for just partime, even a few hours a day/week? It's a start right? I told you earlier about carigslist.com. That's an awesome website, with tons of stuff! You can get free stuff there, buy pets, sell stuff, get jobs, EVERYTHING. Check it out, it will keep you busy, really :)
Do you have any hobbies? Think deep, I'm sure there are things you can come up with. You know what helps me when I get sad, WALKING. I know here in L.A. people look weird at you if you walk, in Europe we walk a lot, it helps you mentally. When you walk, you also relax, and it helps you sort out things in your mind.
Alex, get your driver's license. Once you have that, you will be soooo proud of yourself. The worl will open for you. I have had my license for years now, the first few years I NEVER drove, I was so afraid of parking the car. I still hate parking it, but try anyways. People laugh at me when I park the car. For exemple when I go to the mall, I drive around as long as it takes to find a spot without anyone next to me, they laugh? SO what ;) at least I got myself where I wanted to go right?
Something else: I bet you love laying in bed for hours. That's a sign of depression. It's har, but get out of the bed, and do something, clean your room, take your mom for a nice breakfast outside, read a book, cook..anything. :)
OK, a long (maybe boring) story, but I hope it helped you a little. I wish you all the luck in the world. Give it some time, things will change for the better.
Ciao! :)
find someone to love you no matter what it takes
you could be too passive w life, or some ppl are born
to not be interestd in what the majority are into.
spirituality may be interestin to you,as it doesnt just use logic
but also intuition,which is what some hav problem with.
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