I have low self esteem, how do I try to raise it up so I can be more confident?

Question:

For as long as I can remember, I've always had low self-esteem as a preteen growing to be a teenager. Now I'm 20 years old and I noticed thoughts and insecurities in me from recurring moments of my past. My husband of two years, tells me I am beautiful and special all the time but sometimes I can't help but feel unpretty and flabby even the more since I've gained some weight. Many people have told me I was pretty; I just accept the compliment and it never ceases to amaze me how low of a self-esteem I have! I just want high self-esteem for myself. I don't want to be conceited, but aware that I am not ugly or unspecial but humble at the same time. I've prayed about this several times and perhaps wish to seek counseling.

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hi. I've had problems with low self esteem myself. I see that you said you prayed so you do believe in God, that is good. Low self-esteem is the devil's way of trying to keep you down. You can seek counseling there is nothing wrong with that. But before you do that, see if you can make a list of all the things that you are good at. All your strong points, then make a list of all the things that you are not good at and your weak points. Compare them, see if you can change the weak ones, or what steps you can take to make the weak points stronger. Praying is good, but you must also read your bible, start with the book of John and then go into Galatians. Get a revised standard version study bible. Believe your husband when he talks to you and says you are pretty. If you didn't have any strong points he would not have married you. He saw something in you that was strong enough to attract him, and not only attract him but also to want to be with you for the rest of his life. Remember, God is good all the time. He will never let go of your hand. I hope this really helps you. bye

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Get a tattoo. You'd be surprised at how much it can help raise your self esteem.

i've had the same problem. beleive it or not, yoga helps (sounds really stupid, i know and i was completely against trying it until my friend forced me to). i had really low self esteem. but, now i think that i am great i love myself.this is what you need to do love yourself no matter what. everybody has demons accepting them as yours will help you.

Maybe try a self help book or two and if you don't receive anything from that then I would strongly recommend professional counseling. Good luck to you.

The advice on tattoo might not be a bad idea.

get the band 'the offspring' cd with the song 'self esteem' on it. I think you will relate.

Go for Vipassana Meditation. Plus its also a good idea to take
counselling, it really helps.

Stop asking yourself such questions. I realized if I'm working hard, if I'm into something that makes me feel alive, such questions go away. Stop praying and do something for yourself. Go rollerskating, read a lot, there is so many things that you can do. Do drugs if you like it.no matter what! Just stop asking yourself such things.

Like once said: " All this moments will be lost in time like tears in rain!"

See below site about a new religion about this. It has psychological research about why blenlo's (above) advice works.

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